Are there other people out there experiencing a kind of ambivalence about sexuality, despite what all the articles about hot sex into your 80s are telling us.

There was less and less bad sex until there was no sex at all.

I don't know what it's like really out there, but I'm wondering if there is a lot of expectation on the sexual part because I wouldn't want to do that right away.

Maybe we're doing it, maybe we're not.

Maybe we want to.

Maybe we don't.

We might be thinking about it.

Sex on My Mind.

That's this episode of Dating While Gray, the grown-ups guide to love sex and

relationships. I'm Laura Stasi. I talked with a Canadian listener recently. Let's call her Kate.

She's in her early 60s. When Kate was in college, she met a young man at church. They fell in love,

got married, started a family.

Kate wanted it to last forever.

But gradually, it became apparent to her that it could not.

Well, the first time that I really seriously thought about ending the marriage was, oh, I think around seven years in.

I had three children by then.

And he, one night in bed, confessed that he had been looking at pornography.

So for me, that was huge. I hated pornography. I still do. I don't like

what it does to men. I don't like what it represents. And I felt like it was an invasion on my marriage.

I felt like it was, he was actually cheating on me. I think the marriage bad should be kept

pure. And that means from pornography as well. And so I was ready to leave. You weren't

suspicious or anything, but he felt burdened, I guess, and wanted to tell you that he had been looking at pornography.

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