Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free

podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

The following episode is being sponsored by a lovely survivor named Amy in honor of being 11 years free from her abuser.

Thank you so much Amy for making this episode possible for our listeners.

Welcome to episode 62 of the Flying Free Podcast.

Today I have a lesson for you from a blog post that I wrote a couple of

years ago called Seven Predictable Things Your Emotional User Does when you set boundaries.

So I had originally written a couple of articles that focused on the abuse target and the

stages of healing that she goes through,

as well as the 10 steps that she has to take

to get out of the pit of abuse hell.

But today, we're going to focus on the emotional abuser

and the predictable things he does when his target begins

to wake up and set enforceable boundaries.

We have to start with the abuse cycle.

Think about a circle that goes around and around

and both partners are participating in the never-ending spin.

Now one side of the circle is the good side and by the way it's not

really good but it's when things seem to be going well. The abuse target is on

her best behavior trying not to rock the boat.

She's trying not to need him to come through in any way.

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