If someone throws a fit when you set a boundary, it's just more evidence that the boundary

is needed.

My name is Andrea and this is an old child.

I'm back to adult child, where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up in

a dysfunctional family.

For any new listeners, my name is Andrea and I am a shit show.

So today we are joined by Barb Nangle, who is a fellow recovering adult child in shit

show and she's also a boundaries coach.

Andrea, are you speaking a foreign language?

What is this word called boundaries?

I know, it is also the first time I'm hearing it as well, but I guess a boundary is something

that one sets and apparently it's something that adult children have a hard time setting.

So we're going to be getting into boundaries.

Well first we're going to get into Barb's story.

It's just a nice chat between two fellow travelers.

My favorite thing that she says in the interview is she makes a comment or she says this shares

this comment that was made to her by two gentlemen who were both in AA and ACA and essentially

what they told her was that in AA and the steps, it doesn't say that you have to stop drinking,

but you can't recover unless you stop drinking.

In ACA, it doesn't say in the steps that you have to set healthy boundaries, but in order

to recover, you must learn how to set healthy boundaries.

I often talk about how this adult child recovery process is about discovering our true selves

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