So Bob I have some emails from some patrons about borderline personality and I thought I would read some of these emails and hear what you have to say about this because you specialize in treating

people with borderline personality. Is that sound like something we could do today Bob?

We can indeed.

This is the Psychology in Seattle podcast. I'm your host

Dr. Kirk Honda I'm a therapist and a professor who you are you Bob? I am your

old friend from graduate school and also a counselor here in town in Seattle.

Yeah, and your office is in where again?

Maple Leaf, North Seattle.

North Seattle.

Yeah. And if you want to hire Bob as a therapist you can go to Bob Gettle.com.

Yeah. And get his contact in for or you could email me or something too. So this first email

is from a anonymous patron. He says, hi Kirk I would like to hear an episode about growing up with narcissistic or borderline parents.

I find myself tortured by a continual sense of shame stemming from childhood. A couple of issues that have come up on the

podcast have also come up in my own therapy. This idea of the undeveloped

sense of self. Recently I realized how undeveloped sense of self. Recently I realized how undeveloped my sense of self has always been.

This would probably be a surprise to people who know me. Anyway, because of deep shame and self-hatred and the fear of being seen for who

I think my life has often been hell. The shame eats away at me and my sense of reality. I can easily fall into a

spiral of anxiety, paranoia, fear, and anger. After three years with my therapist doing

psychodynamic therapy for the first time, I finally

feel like I am truly aware of my problems. Yet my therapist tells me that I've been avoiding

delving into the shame and that I should not reduce therapy

which I can't really afford anymore and that doing therapy is the only way to reclaim

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