Today, on Summit Life, Pastor Gedeek Rear urges husbands and wives to love like Jesus loved.

You're like, well, he doesn't deserve it. Exactly!

Fulfilling your husband sexually when he doesn't deserve it means that you

love your husband the way that Jesus loves you. If God only responded to your prayers when you

deserved it, would he ever answer them?

Welcome back to another week of teaching here on Summit Life with Pastor Gedeek Rear of the

Summit Church in Raleigh, North Carolina. As always, I'm your host, Molly Vitavitch.

You know, whenever I look at group photos, I automatically search for myself first,

just to make sure that I do look good. Don't tell me you don't do the same thing.

You see, we naturally focus on ourselves first. Nobody had to teach us that.

But for a relationship to work and whether it's marriage or friendship or family,

we need to love the other person like Jesus loved us, and that's unconditionally and first.

Today, Pastor Gedeek Rear is continuing our teaching series called Home Records.

If you missed any of the previous messages, you can hear them at jdcrear.com.

Now, let's complete the message that we started last week that Pastor Gedeek titled self-centeredness.

Self-centeredness, the idea that you need to look out for yourself, that you need to think first

and foremost about your needs and what you need, what you deserve, because if you don't look out

for your interest and your needs, then who's going to? Well, I'm going to try to show you

that while it may come instinctively to you, it kills a marriage. One of the books I was reading

said that self-centeredness might be the foundational problem. In most, if not every marriage,

it certainly has been in mind, because there's something that Jesus taught that you're going to see

in where he said it's more blessed to give than to receive. But the law of the universe may be

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