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You want to sit down have a coffee we haven't seen each other in a while you leave. I'm not leaving. This is we have concerns hi Jeff canada. Hi, I'm the car bonnie. Hello concerned citizens. Do you give much thought to birth order?

Not being in the line of succession to the canada to the vast canada for shun.

No, I'm not to the canada estate. I'm the first of my name to the kingdom of canadia. Yeah, canadia will be mine someday.

I did when I was a kid I thought quite a bit about birth order because I have a lot of siblings half sibling steps step step older than you older than me younger than me all across the board right.

You know that's the entire board but you know that older are younger younger that whole board across. You know that fight club line my dad was setting up franchises yeah yes there you go that's that's my dad.

So I did think a lot about birth order and the differences between siblings who are born for second male female older brother younger sister older sister younger brother I'll tell that effect I'm thinking about it now just because I've had my first kid and.

As much as Aaron and I do not want to have another kid like literally can't imagine it right now yeah just idea of having another one of those is so god damn overwhelming to both of us that we would never ever also want to have him be an only child like it's like when people tell me to get a second dog you get a second dog they they take care of each other they they keep each other company that's not true that's not true people who have multiple children will tell you this but I will I will tell you this is a as an X

and three school teacher Jeff here is the deal with children one feels like one right two feels like three yeah three feels like six yeah but then but then wrap back around and for they start now the age range can take care of each other if you have four they all disappear.

It's they become invisible and inaudible right and you can't see them they exist in a space time that's sort of in between seconds I don't know how to explain I would love that though you can sort of see them out of the corner of your eye but when you turn around no I would never want to be a child.

My kid to be an only child because he would be a monster the amount of affection we we cascade down on his little psyche would be just turn him into a terrible human being so he has to break that down you and Aaron are good cop good cop right and it's not it's not healthy for him we need to have some sort of break into his his center of the universeness by giving some we had to add another planet into our solar system in order to mess with the orbit a bit.

So there's no way we're not having a second kid but I am thinking about that I'm thinking about like what is that do you have first kid.

Get everything everything all your attention all your love all you've never been here before you worried you're exhilarated your I mean I think about that in the mornings when we're like I'm with him he's on the bed with me and I'm like hanging out with him I'm like if there was another kid here.

You don't get that not neither of you get that second kid sure is how I'm going to get it ever wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait so this week's story is that is directly related to this but also I want to put I want to put a point out there and then put a pin in it where like you have one kid and that kid is getting like all your love and is like snuggling with you on the couch but then if you have two kids neither of them gets that like all of a sudden the couch becomes off limits and you would hold all your love yes you can.

You can't you can't allow.

No, once the cage them there's no way once you have two children it's impossible you still have love you can split the love beam yeah exactly it's a single unified love beam the story that we are talking about this week was sent into the we have concerns Facebook group by Jim Corbett thank you Jim and it is about a study and MIT study recently published in the journal of human resources which I guess is like I'm not going to be a good guy.

I don't know but I need a jar of yeah I hear like I hear like a journal of human resources is it's like here's how to ignore employee complaints.

Here's how to like here's how to like awkwardly say everything is fine when you know you're going to lay everybody off next week.

I have a complaint about what Jimbo has been doing in the office and as far as I know all you did was just put it in the journal.

Yeah, you just put it in the journal and I just keep things in the journal.

Are you are you going to be you seem to be slinking away. Hey, can you you come back where I wear a real I wear a real big turtle neck and sometimes I just just get right in it.

Just get right I'm sorry this is happening to you. I want to be everybody's friend and that's why I got into HR but the truth is that HR is the enemy.

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