Sebene Selassie On How To Be "Non-Attached" When the Stakes Are High

10% Happier with Dan Harris

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Dan Harris, Health & Fitness, Mindfulness, Dharma, Mental Health, Meditation

4.6 • 12.2K Ratings

🗓️ 14 November 2025

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Summary

How do you stay calm when the stakes are sky-high — like your kid's health, your partner's wellbeing, or the future of the planet? How do you face chronic pain without falling into self-pity? And how do you actually turn meditation from a good intention into a real habit?

In this bonus episode, Dan sits down with the brilliant meditation teacher and author Sebene Selassie for one of our weekly live sessions — a combo of guided meditation and audience Q&A that usually happens for subscribers over at DanHarris.com. We're sharing this one for free so you can get a taste.

Together, Dan and Sebene dig into:

Practicing non-attachment when life feels anything but abstract
Meeting chronic pain and illness with compassion (without spiritual bypassing)
The real psychology of habit formation — and why it's not your fault if you struggle to "just meditate"
What the Buddhist teachings actually say about impermanence, rebirth, and the self

You'll also hear a grounding 10-minute guided meditation, some laughter (including a cameo from Sebene's dog, Chacha), and a reminder that you don't have to do this practice alone.

Join Dan live every Tuesday at 4pm ET for these weekly meditations and Q&As — plus access to all our guided meditations — by signing up at DanHarris.com.

Related Episodes:

Sebene Selassie On: Resiliency, Rewriting Your Patterns and Finding a Teacher Who Speaks to You

How To Handle Toxic Thoughts | Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren

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Transcript

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0:00.0	It's the 10% Happier Podcast.
0:07.0	I'm Dan Harris.
0:08.0	Happy Friday, everybody.
0:20.0	Today, my friend, the great meditation teacher and author, Sabine Selassi, is here to help us tackle some thorny questions submitted by you.
0:29.3	These questions include, how do you practice non-attachment when the stakes are high, the health of your kids or your partner or the fate of the planet?
0:36.5	How do you deal with chronic pain
0:38.1	and illness without falling into self-pity? And how do you actually make a meditation habit
0:43.4	instead of having it be just another healthy but unfulfilled intention? What you're about to hear
0:49.4	is a recording of one of our weekly live meditation and Q&A sessions. We do these every Tuesday at 4 for subscribers over at Dan Harris.com.
0:58.1	We're dropping this one for free so you can get a taste.
1:01.0	It starts with a quick guided meditation and then we tackle the aforementioned questions
1:04.7	and other questions as well.
1:06.8	If you sign up at Dan Harris.com, you can come to these sessions live every Tuesday at 4eastern. Our next one is on November 18th. It will feature our current teacher of the month, Cristiano Wolf. One more thing to say before we dive in here. If you want to meditate with me in person, I've got two events coming up. I'll be doing a live taping of this podcast in New York City on November 18th. It's going to be a conversation with the comedian
1:29.2	Pete Holmes, who's not only very funny, but he's got a long and deep spiritual practice.
1:34.1	This event will be a benefit for the New York Insight Meditation Center. And then coming up on
1:38.2	November 23rd, I'll do an intimate little meditation and Q&A session at a lovely little hotel
1:44.0	in the Hudson Valley called
1:45.1	Trout Beck. There are links to both events in the show notes. Okay, we'll get started with
1:50.7	Sabine Selassi right after this. Welcome to our Tuesday afternoon live meditation and Q&A session.
1:58.9	And today it's with Seven A Salasi. Hi, Seb.
2:02.8	Hey, Dan Harris.
2:03.5	How you doing?
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