Season 10 Episode 17: Racism in Dating

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 3 June 2020

⏱️ 74 minutes

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With the death of George Floyd and the nation-wide protests for black lives matter this week, it's time we really pay attention to how racism plays into everyday life – including dating. We compiled a few of our past episodes about the struggles of dating as black men and women in modern times. Really listen as we talk with Yelitsa, Sofaya, and Chris about how they navigate racist comments on dating apps, the extra hardships that come with dating as a person of color, and how best to openly discuss sexual racism to help put an end to this behavior. For the full episodes: S7E7: Dating as a Black Woman: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/season-7-episode-7-dating-as-a-black-woman/id1084105171?i=1000418697968 S8E13: Sexual Racism: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/season-8-episode-13-sexual-racism/id1084105171?i=1000438130527 Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise. A big thanks to Do the Bay for these resources to help during this time: Consider donating to the following impactful causes: Black Lives Matter Minnesota Freedom Fund Nationwide Bail Fund American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) The Marshall Project - nonprofit criminal justice journal Center For Racial Justice Campaign Zero - policy solutions to end police violence Protesting? Here’s a guide to staying safe: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Al8ZNwl-xGJ1RFB_u5cvHiANvkT1Q-ACVhBl1tfbK8c/edit?mc_cid=22ce5d0c58&mc_eid=2fb22b42c9 Not comfortable protesting? Here are other impactful ways to help. Here are some excellent resources for further education: What is Systematic Racism? - an easy-to-understand video series History of Racist US Laws and their effects throughout American history The Case for Reparations The Road Not Taken - Housing and Criminal Justice 50 Years After the Kerner Commission Report Social Exclusion: The Decisions and Dynamics that Drive Racism Lynching in America: Confronting the Legacy of Racial Terror How To Stop Police Violence - excellent Twitter thread Educational Resources via Black Lives Matter Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that the Huffington Post calls
0:04.8	one of the top 10 podcasts about love and sex. On each episode we'll talk to real daters about everything
0:11.2	from sex parties to sex dreptts, date fails to diaper fetishes,
0:14.8	and first moves to first loves. I'm your host U.S.U. former dating coach turned
0:19.3	dating sociologist. You also hear from my co-host and producer Julie Kraftchick as we explore this crazy
0:26.0	dateable world.
0:27.0	Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of Datable, a show all about modern dating.
0:37.0	I don't know, I just'm I'm completely speechless about what is happening in the world
0:47.2	right now and I'm sure you guys are as well at home just maybe not speechless is the right word but I think are you
0:54.6	in shock are you feeling a little disturbed are you are you angry are you sad are
1:01.6	you upset when you get the chance let us know how you're feeling at home because I sure know how I feel which is a lot of internal turmoil.
1:10.0	I definitely just woke up very sad both like Saturday and Sunday. I think after the week it like sunk in and I just felt like
1:18.1	Overwhelming sadness when I woke up on Saturday that was kind of how I would describe it and just I don't know I spent a lot of time talking today to various friends but including one of our best friends that is black and she went to like some of the protests in DC and was more like the peaceful ones in cars and stuff and I think like no matter your opinion on protests I think at the ultimate end of this though there's just this feeling of like
1:43.5	hopelessness that has come from it and just the sense that like things are not
1:48.4	equal and it's really shining in these last couple months. Like I think we've all known that for a while,
1:54.2	but I think with coronavirus, like having like an uneven distribution
1:58.4	on people of color and then just all like the police
2:01.6	brutalities that have happened.'s just yeah it's really
2:04.6	sad everything about it and I want to say his name George Floyd I want to say his
2:09.2	name over and over again because I think we need to recognize that this is reality of America and I've come to the realization that I've just been neutral for a way too long because it didn't pertain to me when I read the
2:24.4	description of privilege which I have on my phone right now because it's a
2:28.0	constant reminder of the privilege I experience even though I am not white American.
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