SC 57 - How Do I Know When It's Too Hard?
The Jayson Gaddis Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 999 Ratings
🗓️ 22 June 2016
⏱️ 34 minutes
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Summary
Relationships get hard. But how do you know when hard is too freakin’ hard? And, what do you do about it? In this episode my wife and I explore a very common complaint about long-term relationships, especially after the initial honeymoon phase wears off. Are you making your relationship hard or are you making it easy? Believe it or not, you are in the driver’s seat on this.
SHOWNOTES
- How do you know when your relationship is too hard? [5:30]
- The decision Jayson made that was crucial to his relationship. [15:00]
- Does Ellen ever feel that motherhood is too hard? [17:00]
- The perspective that matters most in a relationship [18:45]
- How to work through conflict in a relationship? [20:15]
- What about working through conflict on your own, without your partner or community? [22:30]
- Why it’s not wise to “pick your battles”? [26:45]
- Leave your comment in Monogamy and The Smart Couple Facebook Group
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Has this one come up for us? This relationship is too hard. Did that ever come up for you? |
| 0:07.0 | Yeah, and the way we dealt with is we broke up. So, Kepo! What's up? Welcome back to the Smart Couple podcast. |
| 0:37.0 | You ever get that upper cut from your partner in the way of a snarky comment? |
| 0:44.6 | Or how about that pinchy withdrawal |
| 0:48.6 | that you feel constricted and contracted around. |
| 0:54.3 | Yeah, you know what I'm talking about? This kind of stuff goes down daily in your relationship, |
| 0:58.4 | or maybe weekly or monthly, there's one little snag here and there. |
| 1:05.8 | Regardless, it's really common. You know this, yeah? So this podcast is about shining the light on the challenging parts of our relationship |
| 1:12.8 | and using those challenges as opportunities |
| 1:15.7 | to grow separately and together |
| 1:19.8 | and strengthen who we are and stand more fully in who we are. So I'm committed to helping |
| 1:27.1 | the planet get exceptional relationship tools now, not in 10 years but right now. So I try to make things street level, and I interview |
| 1:37.2 | lots of great folks who know a lot about relationship. And my wife and I come on here occasionally in RIF. I go on rants and all with the |
| 1:48.4 | intention to just help you in your relationship life. This podcast is primarily about long-term relationship, |
| 1:56.3 | marriage, long-term commitment, monogamy, things like that. |
| 2:01.3 | Sometimes we're a little out of bounds and mostly that's what we're a little out of bounds and mostly that's what we're |
| 2:04.8 | dealing with here. It's not necessarily a dating podcast, it's not necessarily a |
| 2:09.9 | podcast that's going to help you, you know, we're not going to focus on your work life. |
| 2:14.1 | However, when you start to understand long-term relationship with one other person and you can |
| 2:21.2 | be in that practice dojo with them day in and day out and start to learn how to figure this stuff out and how to actually thrive, not just survive, but how to thrive, your other relationships improve. |
| 2:36.0 | I work with a lot, a lot of students who find this. |
| 2:41.0 | As their primary relationship changes, so does their other relationships. |
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