SC 204 - The 4 Attachment Styles & Not Taking Things Personally - Diane Poole Heller
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Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 999 Ratings
🗓️ 11 July 2018
⏱️ 85 minutes
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Summary
A lot of things you take personally in relationship have very little to do with your partner. Those issues are really the result of YOUR past, YOUR triggers and YOUR perspective...So says long-time Boulder, Colorado therapist & expert in the field of Child and Adult Attachment Theory and Models, Dr. Diane Poole Heller.
- How The Therapy Field Chose Diane [7:00]
- Why The Attachment Model Is So Central To Diane’s Work [12:00]
- The Kind Eyes Exercise [19:00]
- The Three Attachment Styles [21:00]
- Why Are You Complaining About Your Great Partnership? [32:00]
- Starting A Relationship Revolution With Secure Attachment [41:00]
- The Effects of A Disorganized Relationship Environment [46:00]
- Diane’s Method For Repairing From A Damaging Relationship [52:00]
- Don’t Sabotage Your Healthy Relationship Because Of Your Attachment Issues [1:01:00]
- Why You Shouldn’t Try To Heal Trauma Alone [1:03:00]
- Using Mental Time Travel (Autonoesis) For Healing [1:08:00]
- Diane’s Take On Why People Experience Repeated Trauma [1:11:00]
- Diane’s Jem Of Advice For Young Adults & Not Taking Things Personally [1:17:00]
For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Diane Poole Heller visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast204
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| 0:00.0 | Humans have the capacity cognitively to time travel and know ourselves in a different time. |
| 0:05.7 | I mean, think about that, that's a really weird... |
| 0:07.9 | It's kind of cool. |
| 0:08.9 | It's kind of cool. |
| 0:09.9 | Yeah. |
| 0:10.9 | And it can really hurt us that keeps us trapped in our worst moments because most of what gets encapsulated and repeated over and over again are really painful things. the Hey and I'm |
| 0:42.0 | Welcome back to the relationship school's Smart Couple podcast. I'm your host Jason Jason Gatis, and I'm grateful to be here with you right now. |
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