SC 201 - Dan Savage On Being Monogamish - Dan Savage
The Jayson Gaddis Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 999 Ratings
🗓️ 20 June 2018
⏱️ 66 minutes
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Summary
Are you just defaulting to monogamy?
Ever GENUINELY asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?"
Author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster and public speaker, Dan Savage, says we should all ask ourselves these questions regularly. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've accepted that it's impossible to fulfill all your partner's needs and that's a message we can all learn from.
We usually focus on monogamous long-term relationships, but in this episode, we'll learn about how all types of relationships can be successful. Listen in and get ready for some introspection into your own sexual expression.
SHOWNOTES:
- What It Means To Be "Monogamish" [2:00]
- Culture’s Lies About Love & Why You’ll Never Be Enough [9:00]
- Advice For Bringing A Third Person Into Your Relationship [13:00]
- Why Non-Monogamy In A Gay Partnership Can Be Easier Straight Relationships [21:00]
- Thoughts On Transforming The Broken Monogamy Model [28:00]
- Dan Savage’s Journey To Becoming Monogamish [30:00]
- How Dan And His Husband Work Out Their Differences [34:00]
- Is Infidelity Really The Ultimate Betrayal? [41:00]
- The Consequences Of Denying Your Sexual Needs [46:00]
- Closing Thoughts [51:00]
For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Dan Savage visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast201
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| 0:00.0 | When I'm often in the position of saying it to make myself unpopular by saying to someone says to me it makes me feel like I'm not enough |
| 0:06.8 | From my partner I always respond to you aren't The Hi and welcome back to another episode of the |
| 0:32.7 | Relationship Schools Smart Couple podcast. I'm your host |
| 0:36.2 | Jason Gatis. Welcome to episode 201 here from Boulder, |
| 0:40.5 | Colorado. We are psyched to have you as a listener. So thanks for all your comments, |
| 0:47.6 | shares, likes, and just listening. And ideally, you're learning something. |
| 0:53.0 | So in the last episode we celebrated our 200th anniversary and we had a contest and I quickly want to cover that and then we'll get into who our next guest is. This is a big one. So Heather Bracey, |
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