So, Welcome to the Smart Couple Podcast and Show here, streaming live from Boulder, Colorado.

And as you know, this podcast show is really for people that are into growth and development because you get and understand that growing and evolving yourself is what it takes to have a strong relationship with someone over time.

You can't really do it otherwise. I always like to challenge people. Yeah, sit on your

ass and let's see if you could get a good relationship. Never own anything, never

learn about yourself. Let's see, let's see how it goes, all right? And, you know, I don't hear from those people, so.

And it's appropriate to feel embarrassed or ashamed

that you really don't know what you're doing.

Because those are those emotions or feedback to help you pay attention and

learn, right?

If I go learn a new dance,

if I go to a new salsa class and I've never been,

and there's a bunch of people around that kind of know what they're doing,

I'm gonna feel a little ashamed and like,

a little inadequate, right? And I may leave that salsa class and never come back because I don't like the feeling of feeling inadequate

but all of us feel inadequate in a relationship at some point you just get

shown where you're weak and where you're a victim and where you're

helpless and that doesn't have to be a problem it's really helpful so that you can

then put attention on that area could be your sex life it could be way you do conflict. It could be the way you raise your voice.

It could be the way you shut down.

And it'll continue to repeat until you put attention on it, right?

So relationships are so helpful for us to help us see where we're stuck and where we're limited.

All right? So really, I just feel grateful for my wife, my kids, and people close to me because

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