Hi, my name is Melissa Urban, and you're listening to Do the Thing, a

podcast where we explore what's been missing every time you've tried to make a change and make it stick.

Today I'm answering some of your questions, dear Melissa style.

We'll explore whether you really have to say yes to that social

invitation you received, how your love language can shine a light on the most

effective self-care practices for you and how to recover from a food freedom fumble

without doing another whole 30. Today's theme is introspection. Taking a pause,

exploring your feelings, tuning out the noise,

and taking the right kind of action for you.

I hope by exploring these stories,

you'll have your own light bulb moment

and be able to shift your perspective, hold your boundaries, and successfully

do the thing.

This Dear Melissa comes from Amanda on Instagram.

She writes, Dear Melissa, I need help with self-care, particularly around saying no, when work,

family, friends, or life events come up that I don't want to go to or feel too drain to attend. I always feel like I have to attend.

I always feel like I have to go, like they're all obligations.

That's a really great question, Amanda.

In fact, when I asked you recently what topics you wanted me to cover in these dear Melissa segments,

Boundaries, how to set them, how to hold them, was the number one requested topic.

I think this idea of setting boundaries around number one

if you're a Grecian Rubin, a Blyger.

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