Savage Lovecast Episode 980

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships

4.7 • 6.3K Ratings

🗓️ 12 August 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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"Not generous." That is what a gay man puts on his app profile to signify that he is not interested in sex workers. Is this offensive? Hear the heart-warming tale of how a woman spiced up her sex life by creating an Onlyfans account for only one fan- her husband. A gay man loves going to "gay island." It's a small gathering space in a river where queer folks can be together in a chill, clothing-optional way. But guess who is invading Gay Island! Straight families bring their kids to bask in the homo glow. Dan welcomes queer artist and writer Leo Herrera, to talk about the importance of gay spaces, and then they go into a deep dive about AI porn, and sex robots. There's a little on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum. And, a man has been married thrice. For each wife, he reversed his previous vasectomy and then got a new one, without ever telling them that he'd done this. Should he come clean about all the vasectomies to his current wife? And seriously, what is up with this guy? [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s

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0:00.0	You're listening to The Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's Sex and Relationship Show for grownups.
0:05.1	If you're under 18, get out of here, young.
0:08.6	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary,
0:12.3	or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:18.0	while there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:26.8	Over the last week, I've heard from several friends, each one a guy, a guy friend who has in the past made fun of me for prefering erotica to porn.
0:36.7	All three have come around. They're all reading erotica
0:40.0	now. If I've learned anything, reading the New York Times style section for the last three or four
0:44.3	decades and change. One is an anomaly. Two is a coincidence. Three. Three is a trend. So this is a trend
0:53.3	piece about erotica making a comeback.
0:57.0	Now, porn used to tell stories back when pornographers made feature-length films, the golden age of porn.
1:03.7	But porn today?
1:05.7	Videos?
1:06.9	Just clips.
1:07.9	Only fans, content creators doing co-labs with only fans content creators that they
1:13.3	post to their only fans for their fans i need me something more than two hot guys walking into
1:20.4	a room and going at it i need a story i need plot character development i need that tortured inner
1:27.0	monologue and for that you got to go with erotica. You find that in erotica. You don't find that in porn anymore. I love the will he or won't he of a good dirty story. A good dirty story is porn in written form, so you know he will, he he's gonna but you suspend your disbelief and
1:45.7	pretend he might not just like you go see romeo and juliet knowing those two dummies are
1:49.9	going to die but you suspend your disbelief and pretend those two crazy kids might make it on act
1:54.6	five alive this time now when i would tell friends guy friends that i like to read dirty
1:59.8	stories that i read erotica
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