Savage Love Episode 556

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 20 June 2017

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

Wait. Are public orgasms ok now? A man and his girlfriend observed a woman having one, right there, out on the street, in broad daylight. A gay man broke one of his rules. His boyfriend is still closeted to his family, and when they come to town, the caller has to clear out. Can this work? Does he have to break up? On the Magnum, Dan chats with author and editor Michael Hobbes about the particular challenges middle-aged gay men face in dating. Finally... "Hey there, old friend who I used to know in high school! I'm back in town, and thought we could meet and reconnect, in some sort of low-key way, like maybe you could come with me to get my nipple pierced! What do you mean your girlfriend doesn't like this idea?" 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to . Today’s episode is also brought to you by Blue Apron- the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 3 meals free by going to .

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0:00.0	You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast, www.com.
0:06.5	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:16.0	well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:24.9	Kristen Hyman is a cop, or the 30-year-old woman from New Jersey, wants to be a cop.
0:30.1	The odds seemed to be stacked against her at the moment.
0:32.9	Because six days before she was due to be sworn in as a sheriff's officer in Hudson County,
0:37.1	after completing her training,
0:38.6	Hyman was suspended without pay because some videos she made as a fetish model and pro-dom in her early 20s were brought to the attention of the sheriff's office, most likely by a vindictive ex.
0:50.3	The sheriff's department claims her conduct was unbecoming of a public employee and would subject the Hudson County Sheriff's Office to ridicule.
0:58.2	But the world only found out about these videos, and frankly, the Hudson County Sheriff's Office, after they attempted to fire and successfully outed Hyman.
1:06.1	If they'd shrugged these videos off, we wouldn't be talking about this.
1:10.0	We wouldn't know about it.
1:11.8	But they tried to fire Hyman, which forced her to lawyer up and sue, which made the news.
1:18.2	And now if anyone is coming in for ridicule, it's Hyman.
1:22.1	The New York City tabloids pounced.
1:24.6	The New York Post did its lurid, sexphobic kink shaming worst, dragging Hyman,
1:29.3	putting her on the cover of the paper, and unleashing a thousand stupid BDSM puns.
1:34.8	Because Lord knows there's nothing else going on in the world right now. It'll be a miracle
1:39.3	of Hyman, who faces a disciplinary hearing next week, emerges with her job. It'll be a miracle
1:43.7	if she ever gets another job.
1:46.2	So she's just another example of our culture's hypocrisy and vindictiveness when it comes to women and sex work.
1:53.3	The moralists and scolds and sexphobes insists that all sex work is abuse,
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