S5, Ep 5 Best Friend Therapy: Gaslighting - What is it? How can we recognise coercive control? Does it only affect romantic relationships?
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Emma Reed Turrell
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 16 July 2023
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
This week we are talking about gaslighting, where the term originates from and how it has helped us name a particular type of coercive control.
We also talk about how it has been more recently adopted in casual conversation and how therapy talk doesn't always serve us when it’s overused or taken out of context.
As always, our insights are informed by popular culture - namely the Archers, Jury Duty and Married at First Sight Australia (we’re talking to you, Harrison).
We cover gaslighting as it appears in romantic relationships, but also how it can show up in friendships, family dynamics and broader society.
Emma takes us through a Transactional Analysis theory known as Escape Hatches and Elizabeth shares her experience of being on the receiving end of gaslighting, to help us understand what to look out for and how to own our truth.
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For anyone interested in escape hatch theory, here is a clip from two legends of TA, Ian Stewart and Adrienne Lee, discussing how to decide on life: https://youtu.be/FaKxr5Lfkv4
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp.
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Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
Best Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy
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| 0:31.0 | Hello and welcome to Best Friend Therapy. |
| 0:34.0 | I'm Elizabeth Day, author and podcaster. |
| 0:37.0 | And for over 20 years, I've been best friends with a therapist. |
| 0:41.0 | That's me. |
| 0:42.0 | Hello, I'm Emery Terrell and I'm a psychotherapist. |
| 0:45.0 | In my private practice, I talk to clients about the challenges they face in daily life. |
| 0:49.0 | And we work together in a non-judgmental supportive space to increase their sense of well-being. |
| 0:53.0 | And as her BFF, I get all the benefit of her expertise and wisdom for free. |
| 0:58.0 | Emma makes me feel better about life, but also helps me to understand why I act the way I do. |
| 1:04.0 | Oh, thanks, Liz. |
| 1:06.0 | She's also one of the only people allowed to call me Liz. |
| 1:09.0 | We wanted to open the doors to our friendship and throw a light on the therapy we all need in our everyday lives. |
| 1:15.0 | Each week, we chat about what's on our minds to get deeper in our minds. |
| 1:20.0 | Two best friends, one therapist, no filter. |
| 1:24.0 | That's Best Friend Therapy. |
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