S3, Ep 3 Friendship Therapy: Being 'Too Much' in Friendship - learning not to take responsibility for problems that aren't ours to fix

Friendship Therapy

Emma Reed Turrell

Society & Culture, Relationships, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 25 November 2024

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Welcome back to this week's episode of Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which we look at friendship through a therapeutic lens.

This week, Emma is joined by Jo, a courageous woman who is on a painful but therapeutic journey towards healing from childhood trauma. We don't talk about what happened to Jo in this conversation. Instead, we talk about the devastation she felt when her best friend of 25 years announced that Jo had become too much for her, that she was all consumed by the events of the past, and that the friend was no longer able to connect with her.

Since then, Jo and her friend have limped along with the occasional empty message or platitude, avoiding the elephant in the room that was their once deeply meaningful friendship, the warts and all friendship, the one who'd help you hide the body friendship. Through their conversation, Emma helps Jo to understand why she might not be the one to fix this problem. She comes to recognise why it might not be her problem to fix in the first place, and how years of people pleasing might have led her to prop up failing relationships instead of holding others accountable.

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0:00.0	I've never thought of myself as the giving time.
0:03.0	But I guess I am.
0:05.0	I cook my housemate an extra delicious pot of stew after a long night shift.
0:10.0	And I give blood when I can.
0:12.0	Invest in one hour of my time can save up to free lives.
0:16.0	Like the life of my little cousin, Jace, who suffers from sickle cell.
0:23.2	But you wouldn't know that about how cheeky is.
0:29.4	If you're the given type in London, please book an appointment at blood.colle.uk.
0:34.3	Welcome to this week's episode of friendship therapy,
0:38.5	the podcast in which we look at friendship through a therapeutic lens.
0:45.0	This week, I'm joined by Jo, a courageous woman who is on a painful but therapeutic journey towards healing from childhood trauma. We don't talk about what happened to Joe in this conversation.
0:51.6	Instead, we talk about the devastation she felt when her best friend of 25
0:55.7	years announced that Joe had become too much for her, that she was all consumed by the events
1:03.2	of the past, and that the friend was no longer able to connect with her. Since then, Joe and her
1:10.6	friend have limped along with the occasional empty
1:13.3	message or platitude avoiding the elephant in the room that was their once deeply meaningful
1:18.8	friendship, the warts and all friendship, the one who'd help you hide the body friendship. Through our
1:26.8	conversation, Joe comes to understand why she might
1:30.4	not be the one to fix this problem. She comes to understand why it might not be her problem to
1:36.5	fix in the first place and how years of people pleasing might have led her to prop up failing
1:42.3	relationships instead of holding others accountable.
1:46.6	I hope you enjoy it.
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