S2E54 Charisma - How to Have It and How to Use It
The Brian Buffini Show
Brian Buffini
4.8 • 2.4K Ratings
🗓️ 7 July 2022
⏱️ 32 minutes
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Summary
When you have gaps in your communication skills, your connection to other people is impacted. In this episode, Brian reflects on his interview with author Vanessa Van Edwards and reveals how refining and developing the social cues you send to others can help you to improve your relationships, become a charismatic communicator and achieve more success.
YOU WILL LEARN:
· Why warmth and competence build trust.
· How to find your own flavor of charisma.
· Why naming a negative cue can deactivate it.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
“Cues,” by Vanessa Van Edwards
Buffini & Company REALStrengths
NOTEWORTHY QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:
“The ability to be able to use simple words or simple communication techniques to explain abstract concepts and make them concrete is what makes somebody brilliant.” – Brian Buffini
“People just don't realize that their face sometimes does not communicate what their inner feelings are.” – Brian Buffini
“You’ve got to watch your own cues so you're not off-putting and making people feel awkward. And then you have to ultimately realize their cues so you can connect and relate.” – Brian Buffini
“It's really about how do you connect with people and how do you put yourself in the best position possible to do that.” – Brian Buffini
“Something that's a weakness can become your greatest strength if you develop the skill.” – Brian Buffini
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| 0:00.0 | Monks looks to the future to meet your aspirations. |
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| 0:34.0 | Welcome to It's a Good Life Podcast where it's all about helping entrepreneurs think, feel and do better. |
| 0:40.0 | I'm David Lally, one of the shows producers and I'm here today to do a follow-up with Brian on what we learned from his interview with best selling author Vanessa Van Edwards. |
| 0:50.0 | We talked all about cues and how we send thousands of social signals every day. |
| 0:58.0 | Hi, Brian. This is me. I'm sending you a cue to welcome you to your own show. |
| 1:04.0 | What surprised you tell me about the interview with Vanessa? |
| 1:06.0 | Well, that was a very nice cue, Mr. Lally. |
| 1:08.0 | It's good posture. You were smiling, including your eyes. |
| 1:12.0 | I felt your voice, you're standing up. I mean, what a wonderful cue. |
| 1:16.0 | Amazing. That's what I learned from Vanessa. |
| 1:18.0 | Authentic. |
| 1:20.0 | So, as I mentioned, I was actually surprised, you know, |
| 1:24.0 | with all the books and podcasts and shows and public speakers on every subject under the sun. |
| 1:30.0 | Then nobody's really talked about this stuff before. There's been versions of it. |
| 1:34.0 | You know, there's people who say, oh, here's the colors people wear and you can judge that and, you know, read the rooms and those kinds of things. |
| 1:42.0 | But really, the whole dynamic that we talk about is like the big thing is the energy. You know, and I talked about with somebody Yawns, |
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