S2E53 The Key to Charisma - an Interview with Vanessa Van Edwards
The Brian Buffini Show
Brian Buffini
4.8 • 2.4K Ratings
🗓️ 5 July 2022
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
In every interaction we have with others, we constantly send tiny social signals. If we learn to control and leverage these cues, our personal and professional relationships can be hugely improved. In this episode, Vanessa Van Edwards reveals the secret language of charismatic communication and teaches how making simple adjustments to the signals we send can lead to phenomenal success.
YOU WILL LEARN:
· How to be aware of the cues you send.
· How to convey warmth and confidence in every interaction.
· The 3 rules for practicing cues.
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
“Cues,” by Vanessa Van Edwards
“The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” by Stephen R. Covey
“How to Win Friends and Influence People,” by Dale Carnegie
NOTEWORTHY QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:
“Anyone can learn to be charismatic.” – Vanessa Van Edwards
“If we learn how to send the right signals, we teach the world how we want to be treated.” – Vanessa Van Edwards
“We need to be charismatic now more than ever because we're so burnt out with communication.” – Vanessa Van Edwards
“Highly charismatic people cue warmth and competence, and infect warmth and competence.” – Vanessa Van Edwards
“Competence without warmth, or competence without character, leaves people feeling suspicious.” – Vanessa Van Edwards
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to It's a Good Life Podcast where it's all about helping entrepreneurs think, feel, and do better. |
| 0:09.2 | Here's your host, Brian Bafini. |
| 0:11.5 | Well, the top of the morning to you and welcome to It's a Good Life. |
| 0:17.2 | Have you ever heard the phrase, being, watch your peas and queues? |
| 0:20.1 | Well, we are going to take that to a whole new level today. |
| 0:23.2 | We have a very special guest. Her name is Vanessa Van Edwards. |
| 0:26.8 | I was first introduced to her by a great friend of mine who sent me her Ted Talk in London. |
| 0:31.7 | And she is a dynamic communicator herself. |
| 0:35.7 | She just wrote a bestselling book called Queues, The Master of the Secret of Charismatic Communication. |
| 0:41.7 | And she is the leader at the Science of People. |
| 0:45.1 | And lead investigator there, her mission is to help introverts, leverage their strengths, |
| 0:49.4 | show high achievers how to activate their secret skills and teach awkward people to feel more confident. |
| 0:54.9 | I'm a little bit of all three, so I can't wait for this. |
| 0:57.6 | Vanessa, welcome to the show. Thanks for being with us today. |
| 1:01.1 | You are so charismatic. You're not awkward. |
| 1:04.0 | You need me. |
| 1:07.2 | Well, thank you so much. And we're going to dive in and we've been wrestling through the book here. |
| 1:11.4 | I'm excited about some great stuff in here. |
| 1:13.6 | But before we dive into that, give us a little bit about your background, |
| 1:17.0 | where you grew up and how you ended up in behavioral science. |
| 1:20.2 | Oh my goodness. Well, I was always scratching my own itch. |
| 1:23.2 | I like to joke that I'm a recovering awkward person. |
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