S22E11: Rewiring Your Attachment Style w/ Thais Gibson

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Society & Culture, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 21 April 2026

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

We all know our attachment styles greatly impact how we show up in dating and relationships, but what do we do if we have anxious or avoidant tendencies? We’re joined by attachment expert Thais Gibson, who shares how we can rewire our brains and nervous system to feel more secure. We discuss the ways that our childhood wounds directly correlate to our attachment styles, how to reprogram the subconscious beliefs that leak into our love lives, and why it's completely possible to reprogram your attachment style so you can date in a way that feels liberating. To learn more about Thais Gibson follow her @thepersonaldevelopmentschool and go to https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/. Get her new book 'The New Attachment Theory: Heal Every Relationship by Rewiring Your Brain and Nervous System' wherever books are sold. ---- Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm U.E. Shue. And I'm Julie Craftchick. We're active daters turned dating insiders. Here to dive into
0:06.8	everything modern dating and relationships. Welcome to Datable.
0:15.4	Hello, friends. Welcome back to another episode of Datable.
0:21.5	We love this topic of attachment styles because we have very strong opinions about it.
0:28.2	But for so long, attachment styles were treated as an illness, a problem.
0:33.2	And you've got to fix it.
0:34.7	Heal it before you can get into a relationship.
0:37.2	And that was always sort of our problem with it.
0:39.7	And it also felt like, yes, you could change it, but it, how?
0:44.5	Like, how do you just stop being more anxious?
0:46.7	How do you stop being more avoided?
0:48.6	And I think this has been my biggest issue with attachment theory is it feels like you could label it, but then it kind of feels like
0:55.8	not actionable.
0:57.2	Right.
0:57.6	Until now.
0:58.3	Until now.
0:59.0	Until her guest today, she's going to give us some actionable things to do once you
1:04.0	know your attachment style.
1:05.7	Her name is Taise Gibson.
1:06.9	You probably heard of her.
1:08.0	She's an author, counselor, and founder of the personal development school,
1:12.1	specializing in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. And I love that she developed this
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