S2 Ep117: Cree Summer Opens Up About How Emotional Safety Reignited Her Sex Drive After 50

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

LOVERS by shan

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

5 • 5.5K Ratings

🗓️ 30 April 2025

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

In this week’s episode, I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love, loss, and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about losing her sex drive during her marriage due to a lack of emotional shelter and the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and calm during life’s storms. We also dive into how her sex drive has improved post-menopause and what she’s looking forward to as she explores love again in her senior years. Whether you’re navigating relationships, rethinking intimacy, or seeking inspiration for your own journey, this conversation is a must-listen.

Episode Highlights:

Cree’s reflections on her marriage and why emotional shelter is non-negotiable in a relationship
How menopause transformed her sex drive and perspective on intimacy
The importance of finding a partner who provides safety and positivity
Cree’s hopes and expectations for love in her golden years
Lessons on emotional security, provision, and rediscovering self-worth
The importance of women making the first move and asking men out

Thank You Cree Summer
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0:00.0	I don't know what menopause is done for me.
0:02.0	I actually got skinnier and wanted to fuck everything.
0:05.0	It's so bizarre.
0:06.0	Your realization of how important it is to feel safe,
0:11.0	provided for, and protected by a partner.
0:13.0	Well, let's start with my old man, my father.
0:16.0	Mistakes were a thing to go,
0:18.0	what's gonna happen?
0:20.0	And I love that as a girl.
0:21.8	I never felt like we're fucked.
0:24.3	So then you fast forward to having a man.
0:26.9	When the men in my life expressed a fear of if we were going to be okay,
0:33.1	I really had a visceral reaction to it.
0:35.4	It took away my sex.
0:37.3	It took me years to realize you don't have to be satisfied
0:40.3	with mediocre sex, and you don't have to pretend
0:43.1	something's good that isn't.
0:44.7	For a woman in that situation who looks at her partner
0:47.4	and is like, I just do not feel like having sex with you,
0:51.2	what would you say to her?
0:52.7	Hmm. Toronto kids in the house. you. What would you say to her?
0:58.0	Toronto kids in the house.
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