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Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

S2 Ep112: They Liked You More When You Had No Boundaries ft Jessie Reyez

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

LOVERS by shan

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

55.5K Ratings

🗓️ 26 March 2025

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

Jessie Reyez joins the podcast to celebrate her new album, Paid in Memories and to dive into the complexities of boundaries and self-respect. Together, we unpack what it means to be labeled a "villain" (by both yourself and others) for setting boundaries and standing firm in your self-worth. Jessie shares her personal journey of choosing to stay single rather than settling for less in love, reflecting on the regret of taking too much accountability in her past relationship, and embracing her love language—having her alone time respected.

We also talk about her upcoming album, Paid in Memories, which promises to be a raw and powerful exploration of love, loss, and acceptance. Don’t miss this candid and inspiring conversation that’s all about choosing yourself, even when it’s hard because self-respect is never up for negotiation.


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Thank You Jessie Reyez
https://www.instagram.com/jessiereyez/
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Transcript

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0:00.0

There's a lot of people that don't get it, that don't get the like price of sacrifice,

0:04.0

and you barely have time for yourself.

0:10.0

New album coming out.

0:11.0

Cooring, traveling, killing it.

0:13.0

It's in everyone's best interest for you to be honest and treat yourself like your own best friend and set boundaries so that you don't turn into an asshole.

0:20.0

But the daughter and the friend in me feels guilty.

0:22.6

Is pursuing a romantic relationship really the priority right now?

0:27.6

I don't want anyone to be with me that's being like, oh well she's almost great.

0:30.6

I have to make these concessions like, no, you should want to embrace me.

0:34.6

I have more discernment now when choosing and also more discernment when saying goodbye

0:39.3

to someone I've gotten way better at that.

0:41.3

The internet has dubbed that you're in your lover girl era right now.

0:44.3

Confirm or deny.

0:45.3

Your shoes are about to get muddy too.

0:55.0

Perfect. What?

0:57.0

Part for the course for this week.

0:59.0

I actually very much enjoyed you hearing you say that.

1:01.0

How you doing?

1:02.0

Ah, alive. Sleepy, but alive.

1:05.0

So grateful.

1:06.0

A Grammy, Grammy nominated.

1:08.0

No Grammy.

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