This is Jenny Allen and you are listening to the Made for This Podcast.

Well, we get to visit with a friend of the podcast, she's been on multiple times and been such a big hit.

Dr. Allison Cook, it is so good to have you back and you have a new book out, and I love the title and I love the content.

We are definitely kindred spirits here and the book is called

I shouldn't feel this way.

Right, and it's the feeling everybody feels. we think we shouldn't feel this way and I know that this is not what you're saying you're saying we shouldn't

feel this way about not feeling this way right? Yeah, we landed on that as the title,

because the reality is that is so often the first feeling

that we have to name, that we have to recognize and go,

the fact that I feel like I shouldn't feel this way is a clue that I probably

need to slow down and figure out what I'm actually feeling. It's sort of the

preceding emotion to all of the emotions and yeah I saw it so much in your book too we we are definitely

on the same page with this well and I think it's been it's timely because I

think we we all have had more emotions than we've ever had since COVID and or the lack thereof from feeling

scared and all of those things that we didn't want to feel that message is just so good to hear it in a million different ways and from a million

different perspectives.

Let's talk about specifically one of the main things that you write about and that we've heard

from people that is really a stuck place is how emotions impact

relationships.

You and I both are of the mentality that emotions are gifts and they are good gifts from God

and that they are useful and they have a purpose in our lives and yet there's

also another reality where they've caused a lot of damage and it feels like

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