Whether you had to think for awhile or you can recall your last time like that, we're chatting with She Comes First author and sex therapist Ian Kerner about the pleasures of sex and how sex can help us bring us closer to our partners (and in light of everything going on, we all need that reminder more than ever!). We discuss the importance of being 'cliterate' and not just putting the emphasis on intercourse, how you can start to explore in the bedroom in a way that doesn't seem as intimidating, and the important sex trends you need to know that are happening right now. TW: In the intro we also talk about abortion rights and the overturning of Roe v. Wade Learn more about Ian Kerner: https://www.iankerner.com/ and check out his latest book 'So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex' Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: Filter Off: Try the new dating app where you date people not profiles and receive 5 extra daily picks at https://www.getfilteroff.com/ with the code DATEME Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE is available for pre-order now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Meeting People IRL Kickstarter - CLOSES August 31st and get $10 OFF now through then! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy