S1 Ep82: Pointless Sex? The Truth About Not Orgasming Feat. Pour Minds

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

LOVERS by shan

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 26 July 2023

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

Sex that doesn’t lead to orgasm.. Sound familiar? What if I said that sex that doesn’t lead to the big O can actually be very fulfilling and a lot more common than you think?

Sexual experiences can encompass a wide variety of activities, such as kissing, touching, oral sex, manual stimulation, and penetration, among others. The experience and enjoyment of sex can vary greatly from person to person, and not everyone will achieve orgasm during sexual encounters. Some individuals may not experience orgasm at all, while others may experience it infrequently or under certain circumstances.
The important aspect to remember is that sex should always be consensual, safe, and respectful of all parties involved. Communication and understanding between partners are essential to ensure that both individuals are comfortable and satisfied with their sexual experiences, regardless of whether orgasm occurs.

That is exactly what I am talking about with my guests this week, Drea and Lex whom you may know from Pour Minds.

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0:00.0	You feel as though good sex and orgasm do not have to correlate.
0:05.0	Mm-mm.
0:06.0	I don't think so at all.
0:07.0	No, I don't think so.
0:08.0	Only because I feel like up until now, like up until my 30s, I was having good sex with no orgasm.
0:16.0	You think you were having good sex before?
0:19.0	Yeah, because I enjoyed it, but I never climax.
0:22.6	Unless I used the toy or unless I masturbated, you know, myself.
0:27.6	Now I'm struggling to find the moral of the story here.
0:29.6	Because is the moral of the story it's okay to not orgasm or is the moral of the story you have to communicate and advocate for your orgasm, even when it's not comfortable.
0:51.3	What's going on, lovers and friends. I'm a sex and relationship expert,
0:55.2	whom is two courses away from completing her master's in psychology. I just recently realized that
1:00.9	I'm doing a course right now, cultural psychology, and I was like, how much more do I have
1:04.8	to go? And then I looked and it was like two more courses. And that feels crazy because I have
1:10.6	persevered through babies and a pandemic to
1:13.7	really treat myself to the gift of higher education. And that's what I'm most proud of this
1:18.3	summer. I'm proud of a lot of stuff this summer. As many of you know, I'm here in Toronto,
1:22.2	Canada with my kids. And I've been treating myself to reconnecting to my old life and old relationships while
1:29.3	giving my children the privilege of forming new bonds in a very intentional way. And it's been
1:33.8	very beautiful. And one of the very beautiful things that I've been doing as we segue into this
1:39.1	episode is practicing decoupling sexual and sensual pleasure from orgasm.
1:46.4	So I have been practicing non-orgasmic masturbation.
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