Every American male has learned like in the last 10 years that when a woman says no, she means no doesn't mean maybe it means no right

Well pay attention folks on Sunday the news analysis section of the New York Times featured an article

Title when saying yes is easier than saying no, it's by Jessica Bennett the gender editor of the New York Times

That is our actual title now she and her female friends have spoken with knowing nods about the nuances of sexual interactions

Sometimes they say there's a place of no return where having sex is easier than bailing out and she says that there are names for this

Like gray zone sex or begrudging consensual sex or look warm sex

Sex you're kind of yeah about meaning board

apathetic and then there's bad sex because of how you feel afterwards

But there's one passage you want to quote verbatim she writes

Consent isn't always black and white sometimes no means yes

Because you actually do want to do it, but you know you're not supposed to lest you be labeled a

slut and if you're a man that no often means just try harder because you know persuasion is part of the game

This woman doesn't know it but she's a throwback because she's exactly right in the old days

No more often than not did mean yes

It's called seduction and you might want to look it up in the dictionary if you're offended right now