I want someone to be like what's going on with you today. Are you okay? You must have a lot on your mind and to really dig in right and know that I'm not perfect. I have issues. You want someone to have that compassion and my husband also has hurts in his life he also has you know things that are on his mind that are weighing on him and And so recognizing that, right?

Like, what's going on with you?

Like, are you okay?

How can I come alongside doing this?

And knowing that, you know, there's a person on the other side

who might be hurting, who might also be carrying a lot.

Welcome to family life today where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most.

I'm Shelby Abbott and your hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson.

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So I would say the hardest years of our marriage were when.

Please don't say today or this year.

When our kids were little, it was so hard.

I felt alone, I felt like I didn't know what I was doing. It felt like you were building your career and I was lost.

I think that can be pretty typical, don't you? Oh, I think that can be pretty typical don't you? Oh I think yeah I mean it doesn't have to be but I think it just is you know when you're in that season of life and we've got two moms in here with what nine kids between them or eight eight

eight oh I hope I'm not a profit please don't be you we've got two moms

in here with eight kids between them.

And their sister-in-law's.

I mean, it's pretty cool.

We got Emily Jensen and Laura Wifler, the creators of Risen Motherhood,

and we've had a day with you guys.

Welcome back for day two

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