It can become and for couples as the years go by to sometimes feel like you're drifting.

You're drifting apart.

Life gets busy and that love you once had needs maybe some rekindling.

I'm John Fuller, along with Greg and Aaron Smolley, who work here at Focus on the Family

and lead our marriage ministry.

Aaron, you work with a lot of couples.

You see I'm sure drifting that it occurs pretty often, often it seems we're not even aware

it's happening.

We're just subtly noticing.

We're apart.

So what's that dynamic all about?

You know, so often we get so busy with so many good things, you know, we're raising kids,

we're building careers, you know, volunteering at church and then all of a sudden we realize

that there's this drift that has started and, you know, it's interesting because the

word drift means to be carried away slowly by current of air or water.

And that's what happens to couples.

They slowly drift apart because they continue to add or prioritize things in front of the

marriage.

And so I don't know anyone who's intentionally going, I'm going to drift.

It just happens.

That was the case for Dean and me.

I mean, 30 years of parenting and a lot of that was hard with the special needs child.

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