Responsive Desire

You Are Not Broken

Kelly Casperson, MD

Medicine, Health & Fitness

5 • 743 Ratings

🗓️ 27 September 2020

⏱️ 10 minutes

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This is audio shared from my facebook live video talking about Responsive Desire. Feeling broken in a male-centric world. Feeling broken in a sex-shaming society. Some people think that sex and desire aren't "drives" at all. Want to improve your sex life? Emily Nagoski says change your context. Women are way more "context driven" in regards to sexual activity. Men tend to be more visual. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to You Are Not Broken, the only podcast that combines science, medicine, and psychology,
0:11.9	to re-educate your brain and help you live your best-to-love life. And I'm your host, Ford Certified
0:17.7	Female Urologist, Dr. Casperson.
0:22.9	Hey guys, today we're going to piggyback on yesterday's live video, and today we're going to talk
0:27.4	about responsive desire.
0:28.8	So yesterday's live video was, is desire even necessary?
0:32.1	And I think talking about responsive desire kind of helps promote that theory that desire
0:37.0	is not even necessary for a sex life.
0:39.3	So a lot of women just get, they just stop because they're like, I'm not desiring sex.
0:43.9	And what I want to teach is to reframe that and to think about it a different way.
0:47.3	And it's important to think about it in a good context of responsive desire, because that's the most common.
0:53.0	About 15% of women have
0:54.7	spontaneous desire, where they're going to go out and seek sex. So that puts about 30% as
1:00.5	responsive only desire, so they're never seeking out sex, but once they're sexually active,
1:05.5	they're happy about it. The rest of the women are either have a combination of two or what they
1:09.8	call context dependent
1:11.3	desire.
1:12.7	So if the situation is good, or in a lot of women, if the situation is perfect, then they're
1:18.0	going to be interested in sex.
1:19.8	And where we get this kind of feeling broken about responsive desire is the man as default
1:26.3	view of our society about sex. So the majority of men, about 60% of men,
1:30.9	have spontaneous desire. It's very easy for men, or not easy, but common for men, that they're very
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