Relationship Expert: The SECRET to Healing Your Relationship After Conflict

The School of Greatness

Lewis Howes

Entrepreneurship, Fitness, Inspiration, Greatness, Health, Money, Celebrity Interview, Self Care, Celebrity, Success, Mental Health, Relationships, Mindset, Health & Fitness, Education, Alternative Health, Business, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 13 October 2025

⏱️ 82 minutes

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Summary

Conflict doesn't destroy relationships—avoiding it does. When we learn to repair instead of run, we transform our deepest wounds into our greatest source of connection and healing.

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0:00.0	They say the NM1 skill is emotional regulation.
0:02.9	And there is no way around it.
0:05.1	You cannot escape this if you want to have a meaningful, intimate relationship.
0:09.7	There is no way around this.
0:12.1	Author and TEDx Voice, whose programs translate emotional intelligence into everyday team habits.
0:18.1	Please welcome via vote check.
0:19.9	There is no truth in relationship. There are just
0:22.5	two people who are having their own experiences and you live in your world and I live over here
0:27.1	in my world and as long as we're arguing for the truth, we're both going to lose because the
0:31.7	truth doesn't actually exist. If we're fighting the truth, we are fighting a losing battle. Period,
0:36.9	full stop. Agreement is the enemy of attunement.
0:39.9	And attunement is really what we need in order to repair. We need empathy, right? If you know that you're not
0:45.0	arguing for truth, what we're arguing for is your perspective or my perspective getting heard,
0:53.0	seen, and validated.
0:56.8	Conflict without repair is just pain.
1:00.0	But then conflict with repair is healing.
1:05.1	I deeply believe that we get into relationship to heal the parts of ourselves that nobody else could heal before.
1:07.7	Do you feel like you've healed from those relationships with men?
1:14.2	I don't know.
1:19.5	Welcome back at one of the School of Greatness.
1:21.3	We have the inspiring Beya Voce in the house.
1:24.7	And we were just talking to Beah right before and about how both of us entered
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