Reasons Your Sex Life Isn't Awesome: You Aren't Putting Enough Effort in Outside the Bedroom | Ep. 165
Awesome Marriage Podcast
Dr. Kim Kimberling
4.9 • 813 Ratings
🗓️ 30 January 2018
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
Many couples struggle with sex in their marriage. Sex is a gift from God and His plan for you and your marriage is for your sexual relationship with your spouse to thrive! Today on the podcast Dr. Kim and Christina share about one reason your sex life might be lacking: if you aren't putting enough effort in outside the bedroom. What happens outside the bedroom is just as important as what happens inside the bedroom when it comes to intimacy. In this podcast Dr. Kim & Christina share practical advice and tips on how to make sure you are connecting with your spouse other than just sexually and how to invest in your marriage in a way that benefits your sexual relationship.
Tune in to learn more about how to to make sure your sex life is awesome!
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Awesome Marriage Podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and how to have the relationship that God has designed for you. |
| 0:09.7 | I am your co-host, Christina Dodson. |
| 0:11.9 | On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kim, Kimberling and Nill Smith. |
| 0:15.6 | To engage with the Awesome Marriage podcast, use the hashtag Awesome Marriage. |
| 0:23.0 | So this month, The Awesome Marriage on the podcast, we've been talking about reasons your sex life isn't awesome. So all month long, |
| 0:27.5 | we've been focusing on common reasons that couples struggle with their sex lives in marriage. |
| 0:32.5 | And so today we're going to be talking about a reason, one reason that a lot of people are not |
| 0:36.6 | experiencing great sex |
| 0:37.6 | and marriage. And it's the issue of you aren't putting enough effort in outside of the bedroom. |
| 0:44.0 | So Dr. Kim, what does what we do outside the bedroom have anything to do with our sex lives? |
| 0:50.1 | Yeah, there's a part that we, in the 76th book, we talk about 24-7-4 play. |
| 0:54.4 | And the idea that I had there is that what happens in that time in the bedroom, whether |
| 0:59.4 | it's 10 minutes or 30 minutes or an hour or whatever it is, is dependent on what kind of atmosphere |
| 1:04.4 | you set in your marriage the rest of the day. |
| 1:07.0 | So if you're yelling and screaming at each other all day and you expect to have great sex life unless, anyway, it probably is not going to happen that way. |
| 1:14.8 | Yeah. |
| 1:15.3 | You know, if you, you know, if your spouse has asked you to do some things to help him or her around the house and you just kind of ignored it, again, it's not going to be as good. |
| 1:23.1 | If you haven't treated each other well, if you haven't been kind to each other, if you haven't listened to each other well, you haven't communicated well. So the whole idea is that what happens |
| 1:31.8 | in the best sex that can happen in the bedroom is if you're doing all the other things that we |
| 1:36.4 | talk about in your marriage well, then the sex relationship just comes this great icing on the cake |
| 1:41.8 | almost. You know, in a better way, you're not letting other things bleed over and kind of cause |
| 1:47.5 | negative things there. |
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