Q&A! Compromising for Relationships & Leaving Lost Causes
Dear Shandy
Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine
4.9 • 4K Ratings
🗓️ 24 December 2020
⏱️ 73 minutes
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It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How necessary is compromise in relationships, and where's the line between loving yourself and being too set in your ways? Is it a dealbreaker if your partner doesn't seem to take your biological clock seriously? And is it possible to salvage a new relationship if you had sex "too soon", and at what point is this concern unto itself concerning? Your questions continue to deliver, so come join us in our living room for our unbiased (and brutally honest) answers.
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| 0:00.0 | Basically, look in the mirror and if you're not Cruella de Ville and this relationship. |
| 0:12.4 | Welcome back to Dear Shandy listeners. Andy? Yes. Where are we in our vast apartment? |
| 0:19.6 | We're in the studio 6A. Yes. Which is the Q&A studio? Yes, it's the living room themed studio. |
| 0:29.0 | Where we answer your questions and let's get right to it. Let's do it. This question is from |
| 0:35.8 | Extremely single. Is that the highest level of single you can be? I guess. Dear Shandy, |
| 0:45.0 | I'm 29 and live in the south so I guess culturally speaking I get treated more like New Yorkers in their late 30s. |
| 0:52.4 | I don't have a lot of peers who are single and I'm usually the third or 11th wheel. |
| 0:57.6 | It has never been a problem in the last few years as I love my couple of friends dearly and don't mind being the single one. |
| 1:04.5 | But they're starting to have kids now and those friendships are obviously changing. |
| 1:08.5 | Ultimately, I also want kids but I've always felt like I'd be content to do it alone if I hadn't found the right person |
| 1:14.7 | when the time in my life came where I was ready for them. Dating wise, I had a few long term relationships in a row starting as a teenager and lasting to 24. |
| 1:23.1 | I've been single the past five years other than one six month long stint a couple of years ago where I did fall in love with someone who ended up being jealous and controlling and that ended very painfully. |
| 1:33.9 | I'm a flirtatious person. I've been told. I'd probably just call myself affectionate but whatever. |
| 1:40.0 | And have struggled with jealous partners a bit because of it. But I dated a lot in my mid 20s and eventually just realized I like myself. |
| 1:46.3 | flirtatiousness at all and stopped trying to change for people I date. Now I finished my PhD and I'm making good money and am content on my own for the most part. |
| 1:56.0 | This year when I've lost people or moved states, I've definitely missed having a partner to share the burden. |
| 2:02.0 | Especially as friends start to have their own lives and can't really be there for me to lean on in the same way they could when we were younger. |
| 2:08.3 | I love how she touches on that because those friendships do change. |
| 2:11.8 | Oh yeah. |
| 2:12.6 | Yeah. |
| 2:13.1 | However, getting into a relationship again feels daunting. |
| 2:16.5 | I don't see a lot of relationships I despire to yours is one. So thank you for that. |
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