Welcome back to a new week of episodes with John Piper on the Aspastor John podcast.

I have a question here from Eileen, a listener who writes and asks this, hello, Pastor

John, how should a wife who desires to be godly react to her husband's habit of spending

about 70% of meal times together communicating with others via texts and social media on

his phone. It irritates me so much that sometimes I lose myself. Thank you. Pastor John,

what counsel would you offer to Eileen? I think Eileen is not alone here in her concern and I don't

know what the proportions are, but there are many men as well as women who are frustrated when

their wives are distracted by something during a time when it seems like the two of them should

be paying attention to each other. So I just want to make sure that women know that we men like

to be paid attention to as well. And it is right that her husband paid attention to her.

There are a couple of questions here in Eileen's concern. I think one is what might be said to her

husband or about what he should think and what he should do. And the other is more delicate,

namely what should Eileen do about it? So let me take those one at a time. I've got some ideas

for both. So the first are really for her husband and she can just say what she wants to do with

these or maybe maybe he'll listen. I've got, I don't know how many here want five, about five,

five things that if he believes what I believe he puts his phone away at dinner time.

Number one, honor her as a fellow heir of the grace of life. I've got a verse for each of these

that I hope will add God force to it. First Peter 3.7, husbands, live with your wives in an

understanding way showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel since they are heirs with you

of the grace of life. I think that means eternal life so that your prayers may not be hindered.

She is not honored when she's being ignored. If the president of the United States were sitting

across from you at your table, you would not be on your phone. And I want to tell you, Mr.

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