The Ferture ask yourself if your best friend started dating your ex-husband or ex-wife would

they continue to be a friend or not, probably not, which is a situation Gina here our

listener is in, but she wants to rekindle her friendship after a couple of years of

her best friend losing her best friend to her ex-husband.

None of us I think in here have that kind of reservoir of forgiveness.

Not at all.

I'd like to have it.

I know it's not you can have a reservoir of forgiveness like I can forgive somebody

for something but still not want them to be a part of my life.

And that's where because you just you have to protect your world and protect your happiness.

So and people think those that doesn't like well if you forgave them then you know

they then you would include them.

No, that's not always the case.

I forgive you for your transgressions.

Live your best life.

I'm just not going to be a part of it.

And on top of it all to never really come to terms with taking full accountability and

apologizing and being genuinely sorry for what you've done but playing victim instead.

There's no way I could just come around and be in friends with you again.

So Gina you wanted Tommy to reach out to Jill to see if she was interested in rekindling

this friendship.

So she did respond back and we'll read that to you in just one second.

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