I think it's important that we talk about this provider word because I have gotten an influx of new listeners, new followers, and people who have recently become familiar with my mindset.

And I think the biggest question or the place I see the most resistance in the

conversation is when the topic of a man being a provider comes up and for me this is so draining

and boring to talk about and have to repeat myself because in my life

and in the life of the women around me it's very much normal that the men that we date are

providers so when you exist in an echo chamber, everything surrounding you feels like your version of normal.

And so when other people come out of nowhere and they are questioning your normality and

the questions aren't necessarily all coming from a place of malice or deliberate misconstruion.

I think the most prevalent part of what the questions come from is genuine curiosity and a desire to

understand how to do it, how to get a man who's a provider,

how to be a woman who attracts men that provide. And before we dive into this, don't worry,

I'm not going to be giving you any femininity jargon or any of the soft life principles and all that buzzwordy stuff,

I'm strictly going to be talking about the core principles, behaviours, themes and the general

rationale behind this because to wrap this up in a bow before we untie that bow and open this down box

and get going the summary here is the higher your self-esteem is the higher your standards will be

they work hand in hand if you have low-esteem, there is almost always a super strong likelihood

that you have low standards to go with said low self-esteem. So that is the overarching sentiment

for this conversation in regards to a man being a provider. If you consider yourself somebody who has low

self-esteem, I invite you to explore this episode as an opportunity to probe your own reasoning

and to assess how you arrived at a place where what you tolerate seems to be working

for you if at all it is working. And I'm not even trying to be shady. I'm just being direct. And

I speak genuinely from a place of having lived both sides. I have lived the reality of being a woman who accepts men for the

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