Pray Instead of Changing, Finding Restoration After Infidelity, Building Authentic Community - w/ Amanda Hayhurst

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🗓️ 15 May 2025

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

In today's episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron interviews Amanda Hayhurst, author of "Pray for Him" and seminary graduate whose marriage was restored after infidelity. Through her personal journey of reconciliation, healing from father wounds, and walking through her son's cancer diagnosis, Amanda shares how prayer transformed her approach to marriage and relationships.

In this vulnerable conversation, we explore:

How attempting to be the Holy Spirit in our spouse's life creates frustration instead of change
The transformative power of surrendering control and praying consistently for your husband
Why authentic community was crucial to Amanda's marriage surviving infidelity
The freedom that comes when we stop trying to fix others and start interceding for them
How suffering can create a raw dependency on God that we often miss in comfortable seasons
The importance of feeling our emotions before God rather than numbing them
Practical ways to discern when to give advice versus when to simply listen
The healing journey from carrying father wounds into marriage to finding identity in Christ

Whether you're struggling with a desire to change your spouse, walking through a season of betrayal, feeling isolated in your pain, or simply wanting to deepen your prayer life, this conversation offers hope and practical wisdom for surrendering control and trusting God with your relationships.

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KEY WORDS: Marriage After God, Aaron Smith, Amanda Hayhurst, prayer in marriage, infidelity restoration, authentic community, father wounds, healing, reconciliation, marriage struggles, surrender, control issues, comparison, Holy Spirit, marriage transformation, suffering, child's illness, vulnerability, spiritual leadership, self-publishing

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0:00.0	Hey, marriage ever God family.
0:02.3	You've heard me talk about Samaritan ministries and how believers come together to care for each other's medical needs.
0:06.9	Well, Samaritan has recently launched Redeem Health Share.
0:10.3	It's a different sharing option from Samaritan that offers flexible, affordable programs with the same biblical foundation.
0:16.9	Redeem still gives you the freedom to choose your providers, while also including options for dental, vision, and preventive care, and all through a modern digital platform.
0:25.6	New features, new programs, new options.
0:28.3	Check it out at redeemhealthshare.org for more information.
0:31.2	That's redeemhealthshare.org.
0:35.8	Hey, everyone, welcome to the Marriage I For God Podcast.
0:38.6	In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing Amanda Hayhurst.
0:42.6	She's the author of Pray for Him.
0:44.5	It's a book that's going viral right now on TikTok, on Amazon and Instagram.
0:49.0	You might know over.
0:50.2	She is wonderful.
0:51.8	She's been married for 15 years.
1:11.7	She's got children that are older than my kids, which is awesome. But in this conversation, we talk about her story of getting married. We talk about her infidelity. We talk about the issues of her son having leukemia and the things that they went through with that in their marriage.
1:19.6	But very encouraging hearing how God redeems, how God restores, how God captures our hearts in the midst of our turmoil, in the midst of our pain, in the midst of our struggles, our addictions
1:24.5	and saves us. And when we surrender to him and when we yield to him,
1:29.8	and we believe the truth that he's told us already,
1:32.7	how he works and changes everything.
1:35.4	And so that is the conversation that I get to have with Amanda.
1:38.2	And so I pray, and I hope that this conversation we have,
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