We all mean well, but there are times when I say something and I kind of mess up and then I make it worse by saying more to explain myself and there's the old saying if you have to explain it you've

already messed up. So what do you do when you start to feel like a failure and try to

fix things but the fix is even making it worse and now it's a really big deal.

Actually what I'm struggling with in those moments is perfectionism and there is an

answer to that. We're gonna hear about it today. I'm John Fuller with Dr.

Danny Werta. He heads up our parenting team and Danny. A lot of parents are

just expecting that they have to be perfect. They may not even realize it what what's going on why is that driving us

and there there many different reasons why a parent is trying to be perfect one is you're trying to be the best for your kids, right?

You're wanting the best for them or better than what you got.

Then there's some others that are doing it out of performance.

They want to look good, they want to be

better than anyone else. There's this competition of being the most amazing parent and that we

see social media highlighting that. In church you see it as well you see the

comparisons can I tell you one time I had somebody say to a friend this person didn't

really know us but they said why why can't my kids be like the

Fuller's kids and my friend just said do you even know the Fuller kids because

they're not they're not all that great sometimes. Oh and that brings it

something super important out that we assume perfection in other families and so

now we need to step our game to compare to kind of match up to that and there are these

unrealistic expectations that we inflict into our own family

and then there's this quick self-criticism and I've seen a number of parents come into the

counseling office that are struggling

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