Pema Chödrön, Renowned Buddhist Nun, On Her One Non-Negotiable Happiness Strategy

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Dan Harris, Health & Fitness, Mindfulness, Dharma, Mental Health, Meditation

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🗓️ 10 January 2024

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Summary

Chödrön also talks about how to deal with difficult people, set boundaries, and keep a sense of humor in the face of our human foibles and failings.

Pema Chödrön was born Deirdre Blomfield-Brown in New York City. In her mid-thirties, Ani Pema met and studied with Lama Chime Rinpoche, becoming a novice nun in 1974 in London. She received ordination from His Holiness the Sixteenth Karampa during that time. Pema first met her root guru, the teacher with whom she had the most profound connection, Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, in 1972, and she studied closely with him until his death in 1987. In 1984, at the behest of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, Ani Pema moved from Boulder, Colorado to Cape Breton, Nova Scotia to be the director of Gampo Abbey. She currently teaches throughout the United States and Canada and continues her studies and meditative retreat under the guidance of Venerable Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche.

In this episode we talk about:

How to deal with difficult people and set boundaries
Having a sense of humor about our own foibles and failings
Keeping a sense of ok-ness in the face of whatever happens
Why coming from a place of love doesn’t preclude us from getting angry or standing up for what we believe in
Keeping a sense of humor when we’re setting intentions or taking a vow so we don’t set ourselves up for failure
The actual language of the Bodhisattva vow and why admitting how vast and impossible it is to achieve can actually be empowering
Why putting others first doesn’t mean leaving yourself out of the equation
How healing yourself can affect your relationships with other people and create a virtuous circle
Taking a "one person at a time" approach to suffering

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0:00.0	It's the 10% happier podcast. I'm Dan Harris. Hello my fellow suffering beings how we doing when my team and I reached out to the legendary Buddhist
0:24.7	nun Pemma Chodran to ask her about her
0:27.4	non-negotiables, the practices or principles
0:30.3	she cannot live without, she came back with one very radical answer. Fair warning,
0:36.6	this is challenging stuff and I'll tell you what it is in a moment, but to make the
0:39.9	medicine go down a little bit easier, Let me tell you about the benefits that she
0:43.8	says she has derived from making this practice the center of her life. It's
0:48.8	helped her deal with difficult people and set boundaries. It's helped her have a
0:52.1	sense of humor about her own foibles and
0:54.1	failings and it has helped her feel a general sense of okayness in the face of
0:59.4	whatever happens. I find that last one extremely appealing as an anxious person.
1:04.0	Okay, so here it is. Her non-negotiable is something called the Bodysotva vow.
1:09.0	I will let her explain that in more detail, but essentially it is this, putting other people
1:15.8	ahead of yourself.
1:17.3	As I said, this is challenging.
1:18.6	Some of you might hear it as a recipe for becoming a doormat, but Pemma says it is anything but it does not stop you from getting
1:24.9	angry or standing up for what's right and it doesn't preclude you from advocating for
1:29.3	your own interests.
1:30.8	But she says this vow can give you a sense of clarity and perspective and these are my words not hers
1:37.3	It's a radical way to pull your head out of your ass
1:40.4	Before we dive in here a little bit more about Pemma Children. She was born as
1:44.0	Deirdre Blomfield Brown in New York City in 1936. She then became a Buddhist
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