Parenting with Kindness (To Ourselves)

The Allender Center Podcast

The Allender Center

Psychology, Religion & Spirituality, Mental Health, Christianity, Trauma, Health & Fitness, Theology

4.6 • 628 Ratings

🗓️ 20 September 2024

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Rachael Clinton Chen and her husband Michael Chen dive into the importance of parenting with kindness—not just toward children, but toward ourselves.

Whether you're a parent, grandparent, or caregiver, it's common for past traumas to resurface when you're feeling overwhelmed or stretched thin.

Rachael and Michael openly discuss the joys and challenges they've faced in their new marriage, blending families, raising young children, and navigating a pandemic, all of which have both triggered old wounds and offered opportunities for healing. This candid conversation is an invitation to explore how grief can be a catalyst for growth and how choosing kindness over harshness creates space for deeper connection and hope for yourself and for future generations.

If you’d like to hear more on this topic, we invite you to join Rachael Clinton Chen and trauma therapist Aundi Kolber on Friday, October 4, for a live webinar, “Parenting As a Trauma Survivor.” They’ll share trauma-informed insights to help you understand why parenting can be so triggering and offer practical tips for addressing your own healing while showing up for your children in the way they need most. Sign up to be part of the conversation at: theallendercenter.org/events

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0:00.0	Thank you for listening to the Allender Center podcast.
0:05.4	I'm Dr. Dan Allender.
0:07.3	And I'm Rachel Clinton-Centen.
0:09.1	We're fiercely committed to providing hope and healing to a fragmented world.
0:13.4	And restoration for the heart.
0:15.8	Thank you for joining us.
0:17.2	Let's get this conversation started. Good people with good bodies. I've been thinking a lot about
0:32.2	parenting. Now, in some ways, I'm thinking about parenting because in a couple of weeks, I have the privilege of co-hosting a webinar with the Allender Center with trauma specialist, author, and therapist, Andy Colber, on parenting as a trauma survivor. And I'll talk more about that a little bit later. But I've also been thinking about parenting because I am a parent and in multiple ways.
0:56.0	I'm a step parent and a parent.
0:58.0	And you don't ever get to turn that off.
1:00.9	And in some ways, I consider this things I didn't expect when healing from trauma, like a bonus parenting addition.
1:09.6	And I couldn't think of a better person to invite to join me in this conversation than my
1:16.7	beloved Michael Chen, who is also a parent and has a front row seat to my parenting
1:25.2	and the ways in which that shapes me as a human being, shapes our
1:29.8	relationship, challenges us to grow. So Michael, thank you so much for being willing to join me. And I
1:36.9	even hear our tiny human a little bit in the background. So welcome. Oh, it's so good to be here and be part of this conversation. So thank you.
1:48.0	Yeah, one thing I want to just name before we start is just one, that there are lots of different ways to parent.
1:55.0	You could be a godparent, you could be an aunt or an uncle or a grandparent, or just someone
2:00.8	who plays significant roles in the lives of young people.
2:05.1	And those young people could be adults who are just younger than you.
2:08.3	So again, want to just open this conversation up to the places in which parenting and
2:14.4	offering care and attunement to a person that you're called to tend to,
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