Overcoming People-Pleasing, Embracing Identity, and Discovering Community - Interview w/ Jinger Duggar Vuolo

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🗓️ 20 February 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

In today's episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron interviews Jinger Duggar Vuolo, New York Times bestselling author of People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations. Jinger shares her personal journey—from growing up on TLC's reality shows as part of the Duggar family and being raised under the strict teachings of Bill Gothard, to realizing the heavy cost of seeking constant approval. In this honest conversation, she reveals how asking the question “Who am I?” led her to break free from people-pleasing tendencies, embrace her true identity in Christ, and discover the beauty of community.

In this inspiring conversation, we explore:

How growing up in the public eye and under rigid expectations shaped her early identity and relationships.
The lasting impact of Bill Gothard’s teachings on her life, and the struggle to disentangle truth from man-made rules.
The transformative journey of self-discovery—learning to rely on God for approval and self-worth.
The role of authentic community in healing from the burden of people pleasing.
Practical insights on parenting in the spotlight and maintaining family privacy in today’s digital age.
How her marriage with Jeremy provided the space to overcome people pleasing and cultivate honest, loving communication.

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Connect with Jinger Duggar Vuolo:

Book & Audiobook: People Pleaser – available wherever books are sold
Discover more about her journey in her other works, including Becoming Free Indeed, The Hope We Hold, and the children’s book You Can Shine So Bright.
https://www.jingerandjeremy.com

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KEY WORDS: Marriage After God, Aaron Smith, Jinger Duggar Vuolo, People Pleaser, people pleasing, identity in Christ, reality TV upbringing, Duggar family, Bill Gothard, authentic parenting, self-discovery, community, faith journey

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0:00.0	Hey friends, I just wanted to talk to you for a few seconds.
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0:27.3	effort of God podcast. And I just pray that you enjoy this content.
0:31.6	Hey, everyone, welcome back to another episode of the marriage after God podcast. My name's Aaron Smith,
0:35.1	your host. Today's episode, I have the awesome pleasure of interviewing Ginger Dugger Volo. She is the sixth child of 19 kids. She was raised on the show 19 kids and counting on TLC. I'm sure you maybe have watched it. And we talk about her new book, People Pleasing, but we get into a lot of her background story of how it was being raised on the show,
0:54.9	issues with things that she was growing up learning and under certain types of teachings
1:00.6	that led her to some things that she had to grow through and work through.
1:04.1	And then we talk about her story of meeting her husband, Jeremy,
1:07.1	and how he just loved her and was patient with her.
1:10.4	And because of their relationship, she was able to come out of some very deceptive teaching
1:16.1	and things that were causing her to become a people pleaser.
1:20.4	But I think you're going to really enjoy this episode.
1:22.6	And I think you should just prayerfully listen to the depth of what we're talking about and what it
1:28.9	means to please God rather than please people. And so enjoy my conversation with Ginger Dugger
1:34.0	Volo. Hey, I'm Aaron. And I'm Jennifer. And we're the host of the Marriage After God podcast. Our
1:39.0	desire is to help you cultivate a marriage that chases boldly after God's will for your life
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