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Something You Should Know

Our Desire to Fit In and the Problems That Creates & How Language Lets Us Down

Something You Should Know

Mike Carruthers | OmniCastMedia

Science, Social Sciences, Self-improvement, Education, Health & Fitness

4.64K Ratings

🗓️ 17 March 2022

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Summary

If you spend much time in meetings, you have probably noticed that often, it is just a few people who tend to dominate and take up most of the time. In fact, the larger the number of people in a meeting, the fewer of them actually speak up and participate. This episode begins with an explanation as to why so many people don’t speak up and how to get more people to participate in important meetings. Source: Kevin Coyne author of Brainsteering (https://amzn.to/36pCqc1). It is human nature to conform to the group. We want to get along with our tribe - that’s what people do. However, the result of conforming even when we disagree can spell trouble according to Dr. Todd Rose, Professor at the Harvard Graduate School of Education and author of the book Collective Illusions: Conformity, Complicity, and the Science of Why We Make Bad Decisions (https://amzn.to/3CZz6AF). Today, just because a few people speak up loudly on social media, doesn’t mean they represent the majority opinion. In fact, often they do not. Yet we are wired to believe that the loudest voices represent what most people believe. And that is where the trouble begins. This fascinating conversation will get you thinking… There are thousands of languages spoken around the world. Have you ever wondered what they have in common? Or how they differ - or why the differ? Do languages really do an adequate job in communicating what we want to say? Joining me to explore this and to help you understand how language has helped humans thrive is N.J. Enfield, a professor of Linguistics at the University of Sydney and author of the book, Language vs. Reality: Why Language Is Good for Lawyers and Bad for Scientists (https://amzn.to/3way7vK). When you write a cover letter in hopes of getting a job, you’ve probably wondered if anyone actually reads it. Well, there is a little trick that can help increase the chances of that letter being ready by as much as 75%! Listen as I explain this simple strategy. Source: Skip Freeman, author of Headhunter Hiring Secrets (https://amzn.to/3JjsJdM). PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen! Listen to WeCrashed on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or or you can listen ad-free by joining Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts, or the Wondery app. Check out Squarespace.com for a free trial, and when you’re ready, go to https://squarespace.com/SOMETHING to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. M1 Finance is a sleek, fully integrated financial platform that lets you manage your cash flow with a few taps and it's free to start. Head to https://m1finance.com/something to get started! To see the all new Lexus NX and to discover everything it was designed to do for you, visit https://Lexus.com/NX Use SheetzGo on the Sheetz app! Just open the app, scan your snacks, tap your payment method and go! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Today on something you should know, how to get more people to participate in important meetings. Then we think we know what other people think and what the majority consensus is and yet we're often dead wrong.

0:50.0

The way your brain figures out what group consensus is a pretty flimsy shortcut. Your brain assumes the loudest voices repeated the most are the majority.

1:01.0

So you can kind of already see the problem with that, right?

1:04.0

Also, how to make sure your cover letter on your job application actually gets read. And language. It's how we communicate. It's one of our greatest inventions. And it's often inadequate.

1:16.0

The thing about language is that it's not really designed to be a complete picture of what somebody is thinking or what exactly they believe. We like to say about language that it's not perfect, but it's good enough.

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3:14.0

Hi, welcome to something you should know. How do you feel about meetings? I tend to be one of those people who believes that the fewer meetings the better.

3:24.0

Yes, meetings are necessary sometimes, but you can waste a lot of time in meetings. I came across some interesting information by a guy named Kevin Coine who wrote a book called Brain Steering some years ago.

3:39.0

But the science of group dynamics in meetings turns out that the larger the meeting, the less likely people will participate. In fact, in a group of 20 people, 17 of them will not participate either because they are too shy or feel like they don't have anything important enough to contribute.

4:00.0

Breaking that group into smaller meetings works much better. In fact, in meetings of 3 to 5 people, you'll usually have everyone participating. Why? Well, because it would be weird for someone not to talk in a meeting of just 3 people. But it's normal not to talk in a meeting of 20 people.

4:21.0

Also, when you break a large group into smaller groups, the tendency is to sprinkle the domineering types throughout all the groups. But the research shows that you're better off putting the domineering types in their own group together and let them try to kind of out-domineer each other.

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