I want to talk about unhealthy patterns and relationships, specifically tonight in our sexual relationships.

You know that I am a fan of orgasms.

And I want to be clear that I don't believe that the goal of sex should be to have an orgasm.

And so one of the things I'd left in part is not about all about that.

So anyway, in thinking about orgasms, there is an orgasm gap that exists.

You know, men take anywhere from like six to ten minutes to orgasm and women are like

ten to forty minutes.

And so that happens.

And as a result of that, there's a lot of women who are just kind of cheating themselves

out of orgasms and partners who don't really understand it because what we see in porn

or television is very different.

So talk a lot about the pressure.

You know, we feel pressure too.

As a woman, I can tell you that I felt so much pressure to orgasm and to be into it.

Because I used to have this belief that if it didn't happen by a certain time, like I

remember staring at the clock when I was having sex with somebody, and I used to think like

it's been eight minutes, nine minutes.

Oh God, guess what I do?

I got to fake my orgasm.

And the reason why I did it, especially as a woman, but let me tell you something, men

fake orgasms as well.

I remember that was shocking when I first heard that I was like, what?

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