Optics Vs Execution, The Brain’s Argument with Itself, & How to Learn From Divorce | ASK ME ANYTHING

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Ryan Michler

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4.8 • 9K Ratings

🗓️ 30 April 2025

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorenson tackle tough, real-world questions from men facing divorce, personal setbacks, and disconnection at home. They dive into how optics impact execution, how to master emotional resilience through stress, and why ego can sabotage your growth.

From powerful mindset shifts to tactical advice for navigating separation and fatherhood, this episode is packed with hard truths and uplifting insights. Whether you’re healing, leading, or rebuilding—this one hits home.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 – Technical Troubles and Weekend Recap
05:45 – Viewer Questions Begin
06:02 – What to Do When Divorce Hits
10:07 – Reconnecting Without Shared Interests
15:09 – Rebuilding After a Breakup
21:45 – Divorce Logistics and Legal Readiness
27:59 – How to Apologize to Your Kids
32:23 – Blessings Hidden in Disappointment
44:58 – Would You Want Your Son to Live Your Life?
52:07 – Hierarchical Decision-Making
52:34 – Optics vs. Execution Debate
59:00 – The Brain’s Argument With Itself
01:02:24 – Optics as a Sign of Respect
01:04:50 – Final Thoughts and Hope Through Hard Times

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0:00.0	Optics are crucial.
0:02.0	And here's why.
0:03.0	Every day when you get out of bed, you put on a shirt.
0:06.0	Maybe you think it looks good.
0:08.0	Maybe it portrays what you want it to portray.
0:11.0	Maybe it makes you feel a certain way and it motivates you because you look nice in that shirt.
0:15.0	And you do your hair a certain way because optics matter.
0:19.0	And the way that we present ourselves matter. So what if instead
0:22.6	of saying optics is at odds with execution, optics is an element of execution? You're a man of action.
0:31.1	You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart your own path. When life knocks
0:36.5	you down, you get back up one more
0:38.7	time, every time. You are not easily deterred or defeated, rugged, resilient, strong. This is your
0:45.9	life. This is who you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all
0:51.5	is said and done, you can call yourself a man.
0:55.0	Kip, good to see you, man. We had a little bit of technical difficulty there, but I think,
1:02.0	I think we got it for the most part. I don't know.
1:05.0	Technology is crazy.
1:07.0	Yeah, one of those technology things where you just do some stuff, none of it logically makes sense and it maybe just kind of worked.
1:13.6	It seems to help. Well, the thing I don't understand about technology is I could wake up, like I could leave my setup exactly the way it is and do a podcast at night. And I could come back in the morning to do a podcast, and all of a sudden it's not working.
1:30.7	It's like how, like nobody touched anything.
1:33.4	I didn't touch anything.
1:34.5	And it's still not working.
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