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Welcome beloved nurturers. Today we're going to California to meet Denise and Ryan, a homemaker and a pipeline inspector who started their family when they were teenagers.

Their kids are now 14 and 9 and they proudly wave a family flag of humor.

Mom and dad's chronic sore spot, not being teen parents, not financial issues, but how to parent when their philosophies differ.

If Denise came home with a C, her sweet dad said, it's okay, you're still good. You still passed. If Ryan got in trouble for skateboarding instead of studying, he got a tough punishment along with a reminder that boys don't cry.

Denise and Ryan, straight A student son, just came home with an F in geometry. Mom blames herself. Dad blames his son's laziness.

During our conversation, we came up with a context for Ryan's dilemma and Denise adopts a cat phrase. That's all I took.

Today's new words teach us how Japanese youth challenge themselves on Halloween and about an ancient use of the tambourine. First ed disclaimer, what you are about to listen to is not a professional counseling session.

Each episode is a one time conversation and the advice I offer does not constitute psychological treatment or services substitute for professional diagnosis intervention or behavioral health care.

In order to protect their privacy, our guests have been given pseudonyms and some personal details have been changed.

If you have concerns about your child's well-being or your own, seek out guidance from a medical or mental health professional, good places to start, your child's pediatrician, the counseling staff at your child's school, and the American Psychological Association's comprehensive guide to finding resources in your state. And now on to the fun.

Today you're my best friend and I think that we got this. One day we'll look back and laugh for ever meantime. We got this. We got this. We got this.

Good morning. Hi Ryan. Good morning, Michelle. Thank you both for joining me this morning. Thank you. Here's what I know. You have a son Anthony who is 14 and Taylor is nine. She's in third grade. He is in ninth grade.

And you met and got together when you were teenagers. Anthony was born when you were 17 Denise and Ryan you were 19. Correct.

And the big issue that comes up between you it sounds pretty consistently the two things that jumped out to me are one you're very different philosophies of parenting and two everybody in the family loves humor.

And you have comedy nights in your house. So let's start with your perception of the problem in your different philosophies and you described it so beautifully in your application, but I'd like to hear you describe it again.

Okay, so I guess the difference is I think it's called a parenting with consciousness or something. I'm not sure exactly what it's called, but I'm more the gentle parent. I'm just not so hard and stubborn and stick to one thing and consequences and I'm very easy going. I think the way I was raised was very relaxed. It wasn't a very strict household at all.

And I feel like I am kind of going that route as well. But the biggest bump and differences that my husband is completely opposite.

That's why you picked him, but we will get to that. It was a smart move.

Yeah, he was raised in a way more strict household. It was night and day. So this is where we're at. Obviously being teen parents. That's another can of worms that was added to our mix.

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