“Nothing messier than sex” with Kim Cavill

Past Due with Ana Marie Cox and Open Mike Eagle

Ana Marie Cox, Open Mike Eagle, and Andrew Steven

Society & Culture, Arts, Business, Performing Arts

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 8 September 2017

⏱️ 80 minutes

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Summary

This week, sex education instructor Kim Cavill (@sexposparenting) is back on the pod to answer your (adult) questions about perhaps the messiest coalition of all: sex. We discuss when and how to talk to your kids about porn [2:46], what to do if a friend tells you they’ve experienced a sexual assault [56:13], plus the importance of asking for what you want [64:57]. Kim’s website, Tea and Intimacy, is at https://www.teaandintimacy.com/. If you have had experience with any kind of sexual assault or violation, you are not alone. There is help. Two resources available: - RAINN (the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network): Call their hotline (800-656-4673) or use their anonymous chat feature at their website, RAINN.org - The Crisis Text Line is anonymous and available 24 hours a day to help with a wide variety of problems, including sexual assault and mental health or just an emotionally difficult time: 741741. For men, specifically, 1in6.org is here to help, as well. Get in touch! Tweet us at @crooked_friends, or send us a question through email at withfriendslikepod@gmail.com. Relevant to the discussion — https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ is a resource to help parents navigate their kids’ devices, including info about sexting. https://sexetc.org/, a website for teens; and http://answer.rutgers.edu/page/sexetc, its companion site for adults. Those sex ed videos that teens and parents can watch together are at http://amaze.org/. Dan Savage's podcast https://www.savagelovecast.com/ and his column http://www.thestranger.com/ are worth a listen and read. Books! Aziz Ansari’s book Modern Romance (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00OZ0TMYG/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1) and Sex and the Constitution by Geoffrey R. Stone (https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Constitution-Religion-Americas-Twenty-First-ebook/dp/B01N95KFBS/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1504723631&sr=1-1&keywords=sex+and+the+constitution). And, of course, there’s always https://www.plannedparenthood.org. Our fantastic sponsors deserve your love! MM.LaFleur: Try a free Bento Box of wardrobe staples and accessories at MMBento.com Ziprecruiter.com: List your job for free by going to Ziprecruiter.com/FRIENDS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Anna Marie Cox and welcome to With Friends Like These.
0:06.2	This is a show about difficult conversations and messy coalitions and I can't think of
0:11.2	anything messier or more difficult or more awkward than conversations about sex, which
0:17.2	is what we are talking about today with Kim Cavill, who was on the show before to talk
0:22.1	about the Trump administration's budget cuts that affected comprehensive sex education.
0:27.0	She is now here just as our expert, but before we get into the show, a couple of housekeeping
0:32.3	notes, first of all, I am going to be at the Texas Tribune Festival in Austin, Texas
0:37.9	on September 23rd, which also happens to be my birthday.
0:41.4	If you would like to see a live recording of that show, which will feature the guest Michael
0:46.4	Steele, former R&C chairman and actual good friend of mine, actual friend like this, you
0:52.4	can go to Texas Tribune.org slash festival.
0:57.0	The second piece of housekeeping is to let you know that we are still taking questions
1:00.2	about relationships and politics that maybe aren't necessarily also having to do with
1:05.1	sex and you can email the show with those questions or comments or issues that you want
1:10.7	to discuss with friends like pod at gmail.com.
1:14.7	Again, that's with friends like pod at gmail.com.
1:19.4	And also, this is a mostly fun conversation about questions that adults have about sex.
1:27.0	But talking about sex can also be difficult because many of us have had negative and sometimes
1:32.4	even terrible experiences with it.
1:36.2	If that is something that you've been through or you think you might have negative reaction
1:40.4	to the things we're talking about, you might want to have a couple of numbers on hand.
1:45.0	One of them is for the National Sexual Assault Hotline and that number is 800-656-4673,
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