What is going on beautiful people, welcome to another episode of the Narcissus Code, I am your favorite self-aware Narcissus Mr. Lee Hammock aka Mr. Mental Hillness himself, bringing you another hot take from the Narcissistic Perspective, if this is your first time tuning in, I am a diagnosed person with Narcissus personality disorder, I am the self-aware Narcissus, yeah, out there, we are real, we are real people, I've been in therapy for four years, dealing with this thing,

35 years old, and I just bring you to hot take from the Narcissistic Perspective, so today's episode is going to be about no contact with a narcissist, how it affects a narcissist, going no contact, going low contact, disappearing, ghosting them, ghosting us, let me say us sometimes too, but like I said today's episode is about no contact and why you should do it, this is one of the main things that you see it on TikTok, you see it on Instagram, you see it on YouTube, you just pretty much see it everywhere, people always, like if you want to get

rid of the Narciss, you want to get over a Narciss, if you don't have kids, I know kids always complicate the situations, but if you don't have kids, going no contact, which means no communication, which means removing these people from social media, which means removing, which means blocking them, which means don't texting them, which means blocking their phone numbers, it's just complete total silence to the Narciss, it's like giving a Narciss the taste of our own medicine, giving us a silent treatment, but in life overall, you know, this

works, I'm telling you, I know it's tough to cut people out of your life, I know it's tough to cut somebody out of your life, there's been in your life for, you know, for years and years, sometimes decades, sometimes two, three decades, you know, I know it's hard, it's hard cutting somebody completely out that you, you know, talk to every day for years, for months, for years, and things like that, it's hard, but it's necessary if you want to get your life back, if you want to get yourself back, if you want to rediscover yourself, you have to go no contact, because that is the

best way to do it, I know it's going no contact and doing it cold turkey, like ripping the bandaid off, that's tough, that is extremely tough, do I suggest you do it? Yeah, that's the best way, that's the best remedy to do it, but if you can't do it, if you cannot, like rip the bandaid off like that, take baby steps to do it, baby steps, block them on Facebook, block them on social media, don't return their text message, I know it's tough, I know it's tough, like hitting the block button on somebody that you talk to every day for five years, for 10 years, for one year,

it's hard hitting the block button, it's like closing the chapter in your life, it goes to your head, am I making the right decision? Yes, you are making the right decision, you are choosing you, you are choosing you, there's nothing wrong with choosing you, I know you've been beat down by the narcissist for so long that choosing you feels weird, choosing you feels like it's not the right thing to do, but you are just literally choosing you, there's nothing wrong with choosing you, the narcissist, we choose us? Yeah, we definitely choose us, why not choose you?

Choose you for once, you've been trying to please the narcissist for so long that it's hard to choose, like you feel like choosing you is selfish, and we'll make you feel like it's selfish, do I promise you, we'll find a way to make you feel like choosing you is selfish, and you gave a bonus, and you did this, and like, because it's like this is why to go in no, no, no contact from my perspective, no contact from the narcissist perspective, works because like at the core of this personality disorder, the core of these traits is the, I want to be needed, you know, I want to be needed, I want to be in full control, I want to be in total

control of everything, of all my circumstances, of you, of my finances, of literally everything, so if you cut that off abruptly, especially if you go ghosts, but like if you cut it off abruptly, if I can't get access to you, you are in control, you take the control away from the narcissist, you take the control away from me, and I hate it, you know, so if you go no contact with me, you know, I might go, it'll drive me crazy, especially if I can't contact you, there's no way I can reach out to you, you know, you win, like you're taking baby steps to win,

like, and like, you know, I like I say ghost in the narcissist, it's probably what like going no contact around Christmas time or holiday time,

disparate on them around that time, it's probably the worst thing you can do to a narcissist honestly, that's one of the worst things you can do, that's how you heard a narcissist, like you go ghost around a holiday,

because that's the time, you know, holidays are not good with a narcissist anyway, because they're treating you terribly, so if you go ghost on them on a holiday,

you go no contact with them on a holiday, woo, Jesus, that hurts, the narcissist is foolish, y'all that hurt, like, we, you know, and we know explanation to just do it, no explanation,

because deep down the narcissist knows why you go no contact, the deep down we know we've been treating you terribly, deep down we know we have, you know, been messing up,

but we don't want to take any accountability for it, because like, even when we mess up, you forgive us, so when you, when you forgive us for messing up,

we think this is okay, we think that we can, okay, she forgave me, he forgave me, so it's okay, what I've, what I've been doing is actually okay, it's not that bad, so they accepted my, they, they accepted my apology, they took me back, so it's okay, but when you go no contact, when you disappear, I'm telling you, it's a whole different animal, it's a whole different beast, that's why it works, that's why it's affected, that's why you see so many people are here recommending that you do it, because it's a whole different beast, rip the bandaid off, go no contact today, if you can, you know,

it's like, the sooner you go no contact, the sooner you can start your healing, and like I said, don't beaches, I know it's hard to go no contact, go cold turkey on somebody, because it's somebody who wants to contact you, they're gonna find a way to contact you, you know, me, they're gonna hit a friend up, they're gonna have a friend reach out to you, they're gonna have, they're family members reach out to you, they're gonna have, you know, if you have kids they're gonna have kids reach out to you, you know,

But this is the thing about go with no contact if you have kids like

Denars in your life the X the soon to be X nurses in your life. They don't have access to you

They don't get access to you. They get access to the kids and things like that depending on the court agreements

And if there's a court agreement they get access to the kids

They don't get access to you. So like if you have been like you go no contact

You keep in your the meeting spot to if with the kids is your house or something like that

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