New additions: Bringing home a sibling

My New Life

Kate Garlinge

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4.7 • 654 Ratings

🗓️ 9 February 2022

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

Share the news of a baby brother or sister with a toddler, and it’s likely to be met with enthusiasm. But at some point after the baby arrives, jealousy and resentment can get in the way, and that can manifest in all sorts of new behaviors.

Jessica Rolph welcomes Gabrielle Felman, an early childhood development specialist and clinical social worker. She shares loads of practical, real-life tips and insights for how to best prepare for and navigate this transition.

Key Takeaways:

[1:40] What is the best way to prepare your toddler to be a big brother or sister?

[4:55] When is the right time to talk to a toddler about the birth of a sibling?

[5:46] When do you first tell your toddler that they’re going to be a big brother or big sister?

[7:33] What about using a baby doll to prepare?

[9:32] Is there an optimal age for a child to become a sibling to a newborn?

[10:28] What behavior should parents be expecting from the older child when the new baby gets added to the mix? What’s typical?

[15:38] Is there a way to derail the sense of rivalry or jealousy from the very beginning between siblings?

[19:34] Gabrielle shares her perspective about granting space to the older sibling and taking a laid-back approach to holding, cuddling, even being excited about the baby.

[20:56] What to do when the older sibling is smothering the baby sibling with love. How do you give that baby some space?

[22:54] How can parents involve the toddler in caring for the newborn?

[24:29] What if your toddler wants you to pick them up when you’re holding the baby or feeding the baby?

[25:43] What to do when your older child isn’t interested in the baby at all?

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Books recommended by Gabrielle:

The New Small Person, Lauren Child

King Baby, Kate Beaton

Little Miss, Big Sis, Amy Krouse Rosenthal

Snuggle the Baby, Sara Gillingham

Transcript

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0:00.0	Parenthood is a time of so much change for you and your baby.
0:13.8	A little reliable information can go a long way towards making this new life a good life.
0:20.0	I'm Jessica Rolfe and this is my new life,
0:24.1	a love every podcast. While the science aligns on what's healthy for a baby's brain development,
0:30.1	when it comes to how to care for our babies, there's a seemingly endless supply of competing
0:34.9	perspectives. Parents are swimming in advice on sleep, feeding,
0:39.8	parenting philosophies. In this season of the podcast, we aim to provide a variety of curated
0:46.1	perspectives so you can make informed choices for your family. Share the news of a baby brother or sister with a toddler, and it's likely to be a family.
0:59.2	Share the news of a baby brother or sister with a toddler, and it's likely to be met with enthusiasm. But at some point after the baby arrives, jealousy and resentment can get in the way,
1:05.8	and that can manifest in all sorts of new behaviors. Here to give us practical real-life tips and insights for how
1:12.4	to best prepare for and navigate this transition is Gabrielle Feldman. She is an early childhood
1:18.0	development specialist and clinical social worker. Hello, Gabby. Hi, Jess. I'm so happy to be here.
1:25.2	Oh, it's so great to have you here on this really important, meaningful topic.
1:29.6	So I want to get right into it.
1:32.1	So frequently, a child is around two or somewhere between two and four when a new sibling is introduced.
1:37.7	What's the best way to prepare your toddler for being a big brother or a big sister?
1:43.5	So I really think it's about setting expectations in a really, really concrete way.
1:50.4	Once your toddler knows that a baby is sort of coming, as you get closer to that time
1:57.4	of the baby's impending arrival, you want to give the toddler a script
2:02.9	of what is going to happen, where you're going to be, who you're going to be with.
2:08.4	Concrete information, especially presented in a visual way. It could just be a few pictures
2:13.4	is really helpful for a toddler when they're thinking about this very abstract concept of
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