Navigating Modern Love, Sex & The Myths of Monogamy | Esther Perel EP 822

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 960 Ratings

🗓️ 7 December 2024

⏱️ 6 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

"Most of us in the West today will have two or three marriages or adult relationships in our lifetime. Some of us will do it with the same person... we know that we are not the only one and yet the whole romantic ideal is about the soulmate and the one and only." - Esther Perel Renowned relationship expert Esther Perel delves deep into society's evolving views on monogamy, challenging traditional notions that no longer align with modern reality. She explores how the concept has shifted from "one person for life" to "one person at a time," addressing the complex emotions that arise when partners navigate their respective sexual histories. Through her lens of cultural analysis, Perel illuminates how our individualistic society struggles with the idea of being "replaceable" in intimate relationships. The conversation takes a profound turn as Perel examines why some partners struggle hearing about their lover's sexual past, revealing how it threatens our deep-seated desire to feel unique and irreplaceable. She points out the fascinating paradox in modern relationships: while we know intellectually that we may not be someone's first or last love, we still cling to the romantic ideal of being "the one." Her insights challenge listeners to examine their own beliefs about love, desire, and the complex nature of modern relationships.

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
0:09.0	Questions to ask about sex?
0:14.0	Yes.
0:15.0	What's the biggest fallacy about sex that you grew up with?
0:19.0	It's the biggest piece of bull-people told you.
0:22.6	You know, the biggest myth.
0:24.6	What's something that changed for you around your sexuality?
0:30.6	What's a risk that you took sexually?
0:33.6	When you love, how does it feel, and when you desire, how is it different?
0:38.3	What if someone doesn't like hearing about someone's sexual past?
0:42.3	Lots of people don't. Lots of people don't. It sometimes can be narcissistically challenging.
0:48.3	There was somebody else before me and was that person better and did you enjoy it more and all of that. Some people love it, some people get turned on to it.
0:57.0	It covers the range and it's not always one thing.
0:59.0	Sometimes it depends about who.
1:01.0	You know, on this one I can listen, that one I don't.
1:05.0	Ah.
1:06.0	You know, because that one came just before me or that one, whatever.
1:10.0	It's like, it's not a black and
1:12.1	white like i'm the one who can never hear i sometimes am the one who can never hear when you talk
1:17.0	about those kind of stories you respect it go tell your friends i mean you don't pump you know inject
1:25.5	stuff into a person who he's not going to, they are not going to do anything good with it.
1:31.3	It's like keep your stories, they're yours, they're your life, you know, monogamy no longer exists in reality,
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Lewis Howes, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Lewis Howes and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.