Narcissists Can't Grasp That Control Is An Illusion
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Dr. Les Carter
4.8 • 606 Ratings
🗓️ 17 May 2022
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
It should come as a shock to no one that narcissists have a pervasive need to control people and circumstances, and in this episode Dr. Les Carter describes how it plays out. But as you pull back and reflect upon the effectiveness of a controlling approach to relationships, you can quickly conclude...it doesn't work. Control is an illusion. Even as narcissists seem to score "victories" in their efforts to control, over time, their influence wanes greatly. Simply put, most people who are on the receiving end of a narcissist's controlling agenda eventually seek the exit. So what if you decided not to participate in the narcissist's control illusion? What would that look like? Join us as we zero in on practical ways to unhook from a narcissist's ill-advised strategy of control. There is a much better path that you can take.
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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.
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| 0:56.7 | And thanks again to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast. |
| 1:05.5 | Welcome to this week's episode of the Surviving Narcissism Podcast. |
| 1:10.2 | I am Michelle, the program director, and I would |
| 1:12.5 | like to start this episode with a quick introduction. For those of you not familiar with surviving |
| 1:17.5 | narcissism, it is the product of many years of work done by Dr. Les Carter. Dr. Carter is a best-selling |
| 1:24.3 | author and therapist with more than 40 years of experience |
| 1:27.7 | specializing in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. |
| 1:32.9 | This week, Dr. C's topic will be, |
| 1:36.1 | Narcissists can't grasp that control is an illusion. |
| 1:50.0 | Welcome to another episode of surviving narcissism. I'm hoping that the discussions we're having here are going to be a very awakening for you as you try to figure out what this whole |
| 1:55.2 | pattern is about. The more you have a knowledge and an understanding of the pattern, then the more you're going to be able to respond more cleanly. |
| 2:04.3 | And that's what we're going to get into today. |
| 2:06.5 | Knowledge is power. |
| 2:07.8 | And so I'm hoping that I can help arm you with a sense of understanding about what this whole thing is all about. |
| 2:13.7 | Now, I'm going to begin today with a statement that's going to astonish absolutely no one. |
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