So welcome back everyone. I'm so excited. This is my first show creating confidence with Heather Monahan and as everybody knows I go bigger go home. So my first guess I'm so excited to introduce you. You already know him. You know him and love him. It's Gary V and a brief file for anyone who might not know. I hate the one.

I hate the one. I think he's the chairman of a Vainer X. He's co founder of Empathy Wines, which we're so excited about.

Co founder of VaynerMedia. He's an international best known for his speaking, his writing bestselling author, five New York Times bestselling books.

He is a social media phenomenon and mentored to millions and overall badass. So I'm so glad to have this time with you today. Thank you so much.

Yeah. All right. So I want to start today. You know, this is interesting because I'm looking at the show around how do we create confidence for ourselves and others and diving into some of the hard times in life and how we bounce back from them.

Just so you know, I reached out to your team and I said, guys, I your team's amazing, by the way. And I said, guys, I need your help. Help me dig into his past and let's find some times he struggled with confidence.

That must have been hard. No, you're going to love this one. This has happened to know what Heather, we spoke to his family. We spoke to all employees. There aren't any times this man has struggled with confidence. Is that true?

You know, I would say outside of the sixth to like 10th grade window around singularly like am I starting to like girls and do I have the confidence like ask them out is really the only even resemblance of anything.

Here's what I've done. And this is super interesting where you just took me with that question. One of the things I'm most proud of is I talk about only things I know one of the reasons I'm in prof one of the reasons I mean look we're doing this podcast. You could see I'm like trying to run the company seconds before we sit down like trying to be court. I felt back as I fire is going on right now.

But you're like sitting here we had a few minutes before we started this and I'm like shit let me put this down and you know I wanted to be nice. I'm like I don't want to be that right but like I can go on in a second because I will only talk about what I know.

It's the same answer to what I'm about to tell you I have basically only done things that I love and I'm good at.

So it's super hard for me to lack confidence when I'm disproportionately passionate and disproportionately capable of the thing that I'm doing at all times plus that I'm also really really good with people and don't overvalue their opinions.

And so look everybody has struggled with confidence but like one of the reasons in that investigative reporting that it's been tough is I've no question I've now come realize I'm a little bit of a unique kind of dude and I think there's strengths and weaknesses in that.

You know like I don't I've never experienced skydiving because I'm like I don't like that and I don't want to do that like like you know like it's there's a lot of things that are limited about me.

But it's also the reason that that was the answer and I think the overarching answer and I just touched on it is that I one thing I can tell you is you will be hard pressed to go through life and find many people as deeply insular as I am.

I am remarkably incapable of getting too high on people's positive feedback or too low on I'm just in this weird deeply weird zone of like it is what it is I'm I have super good intent I have zero expectation of others I have no entitlement that I deserve anything.

I am just in this very interesting mind zone that I am so grateful for now that I've come to realize it as I've lived and been about and no adi just gradi.

It was you know it's it's really funny about that and thank you for noticing that I posted it yesterday like like it is remarkable that so much of what everybody aspires to get from meditation from medicine from self health like from all these things that 99.99 999% of people are trying to get to this place through these things my mother and my circumstances and I'm not going to do that.

I have my father and my sister and my like my circumstances and DNA and so I'm so grateful for this zone I'm in.

I'm really really confident I really always felt that great. Wow that's amazing.

I always I didn't know the word was grateful I always was like I was super in love with my mother you know like because I knew something good was going on I was super I never complained never like just don't have that year can you start working with children more please I listen what do you think I'm up to right like so much of what drives me today

is the fact that there is an enormous amount of 13 14 15 16 year olds that think I'm cool because of Instagram and I am secretly so grateful for the opportunity to like form some of their opinions absolutely I really am a woman the other day tweeted yesterday like finally somebody pen it she took a screenshot of a text message with her and her son and she said finally finally finally somebody's penetrated my son and I can't tell you how I'm going to do it.

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